Wife Lets Son Skip School All The Time

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dad never came back

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Anonymous wrote:dad never came back

He's either in the SCIF or the bathroom!

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Anonymous wrote:dad never came back

He sure didn’t 😒

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If the son is on drugs or has some mental disorders the wife would be powerless.
He’s an adult the most you can do it pursuade him do therapy

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Anonymous wrote:He is 18 soon, right? I wouldn't do anything, but divorce the wife.
DC missed 30 days every year in high school, all from ex's house. They graduated fine, is doing well in college, and works nearly full time.
You have to know why they do it. Mine was lazy, school was boring, and kids was convinced they let him graduate, because other were even dumber. That's in DC though.
Repeating a year would have been very good though.

They’re married and this is happening right under his nose in his own home?!?

Sounds like it. But if he leaves the house at 5:30 am, and can't be contacted while at work, what is he supposed to do?

Yeah, take off work, fix your damn family, set some consequences and enforce them.

Guess he never did that for 17 years and here they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Make him get up when you do, drive him to school yourself, and sit outside until it opens. Then you can work a half day.

Pick a sport like x country or rowing or hockey where everyone is at practice at 5:30am then car pooled to school.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s the wife that has the health issue (mental health).

AWOL husband and father ain’t much either.
“Oh my job! Gotta go”

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Anonymous wrote:Change your work schedule and drive him to school. Give him consequences.

You obviously do not understand what working in a SCIF means

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Anonymous wrote:I'll tell you what I wouldn't do. I wouldn't jeopardize my career for this. Your son will get natural consequences and hopefully mature a bit.

Other than that depends on whether your wife works or not, and how your salaries compare. Maybe she needs to get to a demanding job too and doesn't want to deal with it. Or maybe she's just a flake.

Thx OP troll. At least you’re consistently self centered.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the wife doesn't care about the son or OP. Son is near the end of high school, and if she doesn't work she hopes OP will divorce her and she gets 1/2 of everything. She must want her freedom from son and OP.

Likely Op never demonstrated care for his wife or son. It all became too much to do alone. And now they don’t care about him or anything either.

What a role model.

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Anonymous wrote:Has OP considered prioritizing his son's well-being over having this particular job?

WTF. Do you know how hard it is to find work these days?

Is this fake o OP responding?

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Have you spoken directly to your son about how detrimental it can be to miss so much school??

How negatively it can impact his entire future trajectory?
Because talking to him & hopefully 🤞🏽 getting completely through to him sounds like your only option.

Let him know that if he skips school again - - you will find out about it and there will be negative consequences that will follow.
I.,e., he will have his phone/iPad/computer/etc. taken away immediately.
Or he will be grounded or assigned extra household chores.

Your son needs boundaries established ➕ enforced and your wife does not sound like she has any inkling on how to do this sadly.

Wishing you the best >> good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s the wife that has the health issue (mental health).

AWOL husband and father ain’t much either.
“Oh my job! Gotta go”

+1 no one is impressed by "working in a SCIF" here.
The original post had so little about how this fits into the wife's personality/ history (is it an aberration, is she depressed, has she always been checked out) or why the kid wants to skip and whether OP tried to talk to his own kid. There doesn't seem to be much parenting from anyone.

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I’m kind of interested to know what he thinks divorcing would do for him in this situation.

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Would your wife be willing to homeschool your son? Maybe he has severe anxiety about school? Is he autistic or have ADHD? If he’s just dumb and lazy, then I’d just let him fail. Maybe he needs to repeat a grade to see that his choices have consequences.