Dating guy with concealed carry

[Anonymous]

Let me be very clear with you, OP. This man will end up killing you, quite literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a very conservative person. And I think it is a yellow flag. There are a couple reasons that it may be fine. 1. former infantry-just part of the culture 2. former law enforcement-same.

Otherwise, it signals to me that they're a weirdo. I have friends like this and they're weird. They have zero training, but they took this class that one time so they're a hero in their own minds already.

The normal people who carry concealed would not tell you in online chat.

Plenty of military and LEOs who can’t shoot for shit with a handgun. Stop exaggerating the competence of someone who went to boot camp and qualifies a few times a year at the range

[Anonymous]

It is good that this guy informed you of carrying a gun…..

It would be a hard pass for me simply because I am terrified of being around any firearms.
I once went to a shooting range & hated it.

[Anonymous]

My Dad's a former military doctor so I was raised by someone who knows a lot about firearms but also about the risks firearms can pose.

And just no way. Someone who responsibly owns a firearm is one thing, my Dad taught proper storage and locking to protect family.

A guy you describe as impulsive with anxious attachment? Absolutely not. That combination gets people killed.

[Anonymous]

Does this guy know where you live and work? If so, I would be worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally wouldn’t date him. The gun thing is not ok.

Depends on why he carries. I have a friend who owns a ton of cash heavy businesses, that is the only reason he carries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it legal for him to carry in your state? Does he have permit?

Yes, I conceal carry legally. I’m a woman in Virginia. I’ve been trained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and I'm also not young or under 30 so please don't assume that

Wow, you sure had us fooled because you have the wisdom and emotional maturity of a 20 year old.

[Anonymous]

If all the stars aligned and this guy was perfect and then tells you he has his CCL, would you drop him like a hot potato? I’m interested to hear from women as well. For those women that would drop him, let’s say a guy was totally into you and he found out you had some show stopper and dropped you… 🤔

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:100%, I would not date a person who did concealed carry or kept weapons in the house.

There is no reason to carry a weapon in this country. Whatever you may think about how it's going to protect you, the odds are you will be wrong. Weapons take a situation and make it move at warp speed. As soon as someone sees a weapon in a situation, they think they only have seconds to make a choice about whether they kill you or not.

I say this as a person who has lived and worked in a country which had a lot of criminality and also worked in a war zone, both of which only reinforced that carrying a gun makes a situation unpredictable.

Also, I had a lived with a fiancé who started to talk about buying a guy for "self-defense" in case we were robbed. I felt uncomfortable with a gun in the house. His whole crowd was preppy adults who were lawyers and entrepreneurs, married and responsible, but heavy drinkers. 25 years later the husband killed the wife in a murder-suicide that absolutely would not have happened if there hadn't been weapons in the home for "defense".


Yes, there is a second amendment and people have a right to carry a weapon and keep one in the home, but the risk of death by gun - suicide, murder, accident - far outweigh the minuscule possibility that one has to defend oneself in a robbery.

People have a second amendment right. They don't have a right to socialize with me while they're exercising their second amendment right .

Also, OP, haven't you ever heard of "Burn the Haystack" dating method? If there's the slightest red flag, toss him and move on. You don't need that in your life. If you don't have enough confidence to do so, then get in therapy and fix yourself before dating.

Wow, you are so disillusion. I'm glad your comfortable life doesn't take you anywhere where you are put in real danger. Some of us don't have it so well and have good reason to be concerned for our safety.