Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's been a mixed bag.
I left my xH for another man, who dumped me within a month of me leaving.
I ended up having another child who I adore (accidental pregnancy), and I'm in a LTR with an amazing man who is everything I've ever dreamed of.
But, there's been a lot of hard times. I was a SAHM and had to start over in a new career. Money is still tight and I'm stressed out a lot. I'm now stuck in a city I absolutely hate.
I don't really know if I can say I regret it. My problem in my marriage was that I was a pushover and my xH is extremely domineering. Now, I have no problem standing up to him, and I think he respects me more because I'm not dependent on him and I don't put up with any BS from him. In theory, I could have probably done this in my marriage, but I also didn't have the life experience and self-esteem that my struggles ended up giving me.
But I do really miss that cushy SAHM lifestyle, and I miss my kids when they're not with me. Generally when my SAHM friends are thinking of divorce, I push them not to, especially if it's over relatively minor things and their husbands make good money.
Dp. Posting here because my story has some parallels. Both ex and I cheated although I’m not sure anyone ‘left’ for their AP. There was infidelity because of serious relationship issues, trust issues, resentment, etc. Ex went from relationship to relationship after we separated while I settled down a few years later (not with AP) and have been fairly happy.
But it was rough, terrible for our kids and looking back, I wish we’d both been more mature and flexible with each other. We tried therapy and it didn’t work, but I wish we’d tried harder to appreciate each other.
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}