Coworker's Medical 'Procedure'

[Anonymous]

Can you and your coworkers do math?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, YOU are the AH.

That much is clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a tiny office of 14 people. One of them we will call Nicole. A month ago Nicole sent an extremely vague email out to everyone letting us know that she'd be out for two weeks. No info given at all. Just a "I'm out for two weeks".

I have heard whispers that it involved some sort of minor procedure in a 'hospital environment'. That is all.

Today, her work bestie sent out a note seeking 'donations of $50 per person' to cover her food delivery for the next week or two.

I've never really cared for Nicole or her bestie. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was something as small as wisdom tooth removal, colonoscopy, skin tag removal, whatever.... or nothing at all.

Would you contribute? I don't think I'm going to even though I know it will cause blowback

I'm not responsible for her care; I'm not made of money; I don't appreciate the secrecy when solicitation is involved; none of my birthdays or doctor's visits involved 'gifts' and I don't like her.

Thoughts?

Boob job. It’s a boob job. Ask me how I know. I once contributed to a meal train where ai thought the lady had breast cancer. Nope it was implants!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a tiny office of 14 people. One of them we will call Nicole. A month ago Nicole sent an extremely vague email out to everyone letting us know that she'd be out for two weeks. No info given at all. Just a "I'm out for two weeks".

I have heard whispers that it involved some sort of minor procedure in a 'hospital environment'. That is all.

Today, her work bestie sent out a note seeking 'donations of $50 per person' to cover her food delivery for the next week or two.

I've never really cared for Nicole or her bestie. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was something as small as wisdom tooth removal, colonoscopy, skin tag removal, whatever.... or nothing at all.

Would you contribute? I don't think I'm going to even though I know it will cause blowback

I'm not responsible for her care; I'm not made of money; I don't appreciate the secrecy when solicitation is involved; none of my birthdays or doctor's visits involved 'gifts' and I don't like her.

Thoughts?

Boob job. It’s a boob job. Ask me how I know. I once contributed to a meal train where ai thought the lady had breast cancer. Nope it was implants!!

Buy two melons from the grocery store and say this is your contribution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a tiny office of 14 people. One of them we will call Nicole. A month ago Nicole sent an extremely vague email out to everyone letting us know that she'd be out for two weeks. No info given at all. Just a "I'm out for two weeks".

I have heard whispers that it involved some sort of minor procedure in a 'hospital environment'. That is all.

Today, her work bestie sent out a note seeking 'donations of $50 per person' to cover her food delivery for the next week or two.

I've never really cared for Nicole or her bestie. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was something as small as wisdom tooth removal, colonoscopy, skin tag removal, whatever.... or nothing at all.

Would you contribute? I don't think I'm going to even though I know it will cause blowback

I'm not responsible for her care; I'm not made of money; I don't appreciate the secrecy when solicitation is involved; none of my birthdays or doctor's visits involved 'gifts' and I don't like her.

Thoughts?

You don’t like her so don’t contribute. Her medical history is not your business tho

[Anonymous]

Who gives a crap? I’d pay $50 for this to go away. Do you want to be the office AH over $50? Boohoo, I don’t like Larla so I don’t want to contribute to her BBL DoorDash fund. Who GAF, just do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't contribute, but I also wouldn't post about it, gossip about it, or think about it at all.

This. Yuck you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

Oh no I read it correctly. Instead of a company paying employees a proper wage or giving paid leave, the employees themselves have to cobble enough pennies together for this co-worker to eat. I'm at a job to work to pay my own bills, why are other employees asking me to support them? You don't think that's disgustingly sad AF? It's not even about healthcare, but as a non-american, reading about employees having to support other employees out of their own pocket instead of the billionaire CEO taking a few less vacation *hours* is crazy town. Unrelated rant to the OP maybe lol.

Ok fine. What do they do in your country that’s so much better and why you not over there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what are you gonna do when co-workers return with a great butt?

😩😩😩🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd buy some day old half priced baked goods from Safeway for $3 and put a ribbon on it. That is insane that they are asking for what it costs my family of four to go to Chipotle. Somebody is skimming off the top.

Ewwwww her little friend might be doing that

[Anonymous]

Does she have a child or children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50 dollars from all 14 people on the team is ridiculous.

Agree. I can’t believe they would ask for that much. Whenever my office does donations for things people give $10 or maybe $20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a tiny office of 14 people. One of them we will call Nicole. A month ago Nicole sent an extremely vague email out to everyone letting us know that she'd be out for two weeks. No info given at all. Just a "I'm out for two weeks".

I have heard whispers that it involved some sort of minor procedure in a 'hospital environment'. That is all.

Today, her work bestie sent out a note seeking 'donations of $50 per person' to cover her food delivery for the next week or two.

I've never really cared for Nicole or her bestie. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was something as small as wisdom tooth removal, colonoscopy, skin tag removal, whatever.... or nothing at all.

Would you contribute? I don't think I'm going to even though I know it will cause blowback

I'm not responsible for her care; I'm not made of money; I don't appreciate the secrecy when solicitation is involved; none of my birthdays or doctor's visits involved 'gifts' and I don't like her.

Thoughts?

Boob job. It’s a boob job. Ask me how I know. I once contributed to a meal train where ai thought the lady had breast cancer. Nope it was implants!!

It was probably implants after they removed her natural titties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

Oh no I read it correctly. Instead of a company paying employees a proper wage or giving paid leave, the employees themselves have to cobble enough pennies together for this co-worker to eat. I'm at a job to work to pay my own bills, why are other employees asking me to support them? You don't think that's disgustingly sad AF? It's not even about healthcare, but as a non-american, reading about employees having to support other employees out of their own pocket instead of the billionaire CEO taking a few less vacation *hours* is crazy town. Unrelated rant to the OP maybe lol.

Wow.

What non neighborly contry are you from?

In the US, it is customary to do a meal train after medical events, family deaths, new babies and other stressful life events, not because the person os too underpaid to take care of themselves, but to band together as a community to take care of neighbors and co workers so their emotional burden can be lessened by not having to think about cooking.

Providing meals for neighbors and coworkers during times of extreme stress or joyful events like new babies is a wonderful aspect of American culture.

It is unfortunate that taking care of and showing love to your neighbors during times of emotional need is not part of your heritage.

Kindness to those in need, including emotional needs, rich or poor, is a very important part of the fabric of our shared American heritage, identity and culture.

NP like someone pointed out, it's $650 so that someone can get doordash meals!
Nicole is getting PTO.
Nicole knew about this procedure. It's not hard to have some food in the house prepared. People do it before having a baby all the time. The ask here is outrageous and entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't donate if you don't want to, but it's not nice to speculate it's a hangnail. The procedure could be anything she wants to keep private. Maybe gyn stuff. You have zero right to that information. If her doctor wrote her out for two weeks, it's sufficiently serious for her to be out that long. Asking for 50 pp is a lot so feel free to decline but not because she's not giving you her medical info.

+1.