Coworker's Medical 'Procedure'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any specific reason to doubt she's having a legitimate procedure? Maybe it's something "embarrassing." I had a uterine fibroid removed and my endometriosis excised laparoscopically and was out for two weeks. I certainly wouldn't want my whole office knowing about that.

DP, but I was def out for 2 weeks when I got my gallbladder out. I was supposed to be off for 6wks but was able to wfh after the first bit.

There is no need to ops coworker to share what procedure she is doing, but I still think its inappropriate to solicit money from coworkers.

[Anonymous]

You should not contribute.

You should also refrain from discussing Nicole and her "bestie," and also from posting on message boards about them.

[Anonymous]

Just give the bestie $10 and be like that's my contribution. It's not woth the time to think about this any longer.

[Anonymous]

I would not send cash. I would send a meal if she has a family.

[Anonymous]

Rediculous. Not a chance I'd donate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The work bestie is rude here.

Not the patient herself, who as far as you know, did not lie and did not ask for any specific sum.

And why are we now supposed to assume that everything people say are lies????

OP, you look like a jerk here. Don't give money if you don't want to. But why are you assuming she's lying? That says more about you than it says about the other person.

+1 this is so rude and so tacky. That's a ton of money for one person. No one should contribute.

[Anonymous]

Don't embarrass yourself by violating the social contract -- just donate the $50 and move on with life. And don't concern yourself about what the procedure was. It doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

I have donated at least a token amount to almost everything.

Except to buy a t.v. for the lazy summer intern at my first job. That was a hard limit.

[Anonymous]

It’s a small office, contribute.
In addition ask the best friend what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

Oh no I read it correctly. Instead of a company paying employees a proper wage or giving paid leave, the employees themselves have to cobble enough pennies together for this co-worker to eat. I'm at a job to work to pay my own bills, why are other employees asking me to support them? You don't think that's disgustingly sad AF? It's not even about healthcare, but as a non-american, reading about employees having to support other employees out of their own pocket instead of the billionaire CEO taking a few less vacation *hours* is crazy town. Unrelated rant to the OP maybe lol.

The post does not say that. Someone wants to put together some food delivery for the woman who is out. That’s all that is said. Maybe they just wanted to do something nice or fun. It dues not say she us starving.

[Anonymous]

Does she live alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

Oh no I read it correctly. Instead of a company paying employees a proper wage or giving paid leave, the employees themselves have to cobble enough pennies together for this co-worker to eat. I'm at a job to work to pay my own bills, why are other employees asking me to support them? You don't think that's disgustingly sad AF? It's not even about healthcare, but as a non-american, reading about employees having to support other employees out of their own pocket instead of the billionaire CEO taking a few less vacation *hours* is crazy town. Unrelated rant to the OP maybe lol.

Wow.

What non neighborly contry are you from?

In the US, it is customary to do a meal train after medical events, family deaths, new babies and other stressful life events, not because the person os too underpaid to take care of themselves, but to band together as a community to take care of neighbors and co workers so their emotional burden can be lessened by not having to think about cooking.

Providing meals for neighbors and coworkers during times of extreme stress or joyful events like new babies is a wonderful aspect of American culture.

It is unfortunate that taking care of and showing love to your neighbors during times of emotional need is not part of your heritage.

Kindness to those in need, including emotional needs, rich or poor, is a very important part of the fabric of our shared American heritage, identity and culture.

[Anonymous]

50 dollars from all 14 people on the team is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I have a houseful of active teen boys and we buy whatever food they want, including around 3 dozen eggs and 2 gallons of milk per week, and lots of fast food.

It is a very rare month that we average $350.00/week on food for our household full of teen boys.

[Anonymous]

OP, YOU are the AH.