Parents that have no interest in knowing any of their kids friends unless it helps them professionally or socially

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just have to find the kind moms in the midst of the jerk strivers. There are always kind people in the mix--some are the top moms socially, some are at the fridge of the crowd, some are in the middle.

And we found that the dads are almost always nice. My husband has had zero problems talking with the other dads and after a few interactions they have always been warm to him at every gathering---coming over to him, talking to him, inviting him to things. My husband is not the bro type at all but is smart and a bit quirky.

The dads are like "hey guy, how are you?" to my husband while their wives routinely look through right me when I say a warm hello during the course of the same evening. I often feel like saying: "did your husband not get the message? We can't advance your standing. He's not supposed to be interacting with us."

Women are frankly just bit$%Tches.

In many ways, the dads bring home financial capital and the moms bring home social capital. Gender roles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is friends with another kid. The mom was at my house and we had a hours long intimate conversation. I felt like I had made a new friend. Then at the next school event she acts like I'm invisible. Of course her house cost 10x what mine did.
She probably thinks I'm a social climber but I just enjoyed the conversation. I would have wanted to be her friend even if she was poor.

The people that are good at making connections (perhaps like the woman you connected) with almost can't turn it off.

[Anonymous]

Ya people like this creep me out, and they do exist at public and private. It’s like being back in middle school where no one is meaner than the kid just above you on the popularity scale. Read the book caste by Isabel Wilkerson, this is one of the big themes.