Do you get your older teen up in the morning?

[Anonymous]

Teen gets up himself, but I have to start the dryer to heat up his clothes. Our laundry-room is upstairs and he basically dresses at the dryer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wake mine because they don’t have phones in their rooms on school days. And I’m up anyway, so it just works for us.

+1

Same

Zero issues getting up on their own in college. lol —ppl acting like the kid will never be able to use an alarm in the future

[Anonymous]

My 16 year old has been getting himself up with an alarm clock since the start of middle school. Every once in a while I realize I don’t hear him up because he forgot to set the alarm or slept through or something and I will wake him but this is maybe once a month. My almost 14 year old can sleep through any alarm. So we wake her up. Every day. Pretty sure that will be true for a while but we have discussed that she will need to get up on her own when she goes away to school so I don’t know how you train that. We will work on it at some point but middle school with the early start times in our district doesn’t feel like the time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. My kid sleeps really deeply. I always have, too, (until menopause, anyway) so understand the struggle. I sit on the edge of his bed and chat for a few minutes so he doesn't just drift back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you may not want to hear this but our DS gets up and out of the house before we wake up. The closing of the front door often usually wakes us up, sometimes not. It's before our alarm.

Ditto. Dc is up and out before I wake up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wake mine because they don’t have phones in their rooms on school days. And I’m up anyway, so it just works for us.

+1

Same

Zero issues getting up on their own in college. lol —ppl acting like the kid will never be able to use an alarm in the future

They could use an alarm now.

[Anonymous]

Since 6th grade my son has set his own alarm and gotten himself up.

[Anonymous]

Here is the crux of it: it is very likely your child is capable of getting up by himself. If it brings you joy to wake him up, go for it. There is nothing wrong with that.

I have one kid with extreme insomnia from ADHD and another kid that is an extremely heavy sleeper so I’m not just saying this.

You just need to ensure he develops this skill well before it is time to go to college. It may be he hasn’t developed the right habits, it may be he hasn’t developed the right routine, and as some PPs note, there is a small chance this is a medical issue that needs to be considered and resolved. Unless your child is deeply disabled these are fixable, but if you don’t want to force the issue then you still have time.

[Anonymous]

No, my older teen actually wakes me up.

[Anonymous]

Nope.
If child has no phone … Get them a $5 alarm clock

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teen gets up himself, but I have to start the dryer to heat up his clothes. Our laundry-room is upstairs and he basically dresses at the dryer.

What? How cold do you keep your house? This is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the start of MS, I taught my kids to get themselves up. And once my middle kid was proficient, he said “now that you know I can do it, can you go back to waking me”. So I did. And my mom always woke me by rubbing my back. Such a sweet memories. No regrets.

I love this so much!
I have a nearly 16 year old; she is definitely capable of getting herself up, but I don't mind making the first pass (after I've done the same for my 10 and 13 year olds).

[Anonymous]

I woke up DS through his senior year - I tried not doing it, but he was the driver for younger siblings and I really needed him to drive them to school!

I was really worried about him going to college - but he was able to not start classes until 10a and has managed to get himself up and to class (I assume.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen gets up himself, but I have to start the dryer to heat up his clothes. Our laundry-room is upstairs and he basically dresses at the dryer.

What? How cold do you keep your house? This is weird.

No. Our heat is at 72 in the morning. 67-68 during the night. He likes to wear warm clothes after he showers. He can do it himself but this is one of the small ways I pamper him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen gets up himself, but I have to start the dryer to heat up his clothes. Our laundry-room is upstairs and he basically dresses at the dryer.

What? How cold do you keep your house? This is weird.

No. Our heat is at 72 in the morning. 67-68 during the night. He likes to wear warm clothes after he showers. He can do it himself but this is one of the small ways I pamper him.

Oh dear god…I feel sorry for your future DIL.