Do you get your older teen up in the morning?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never woken my kids up and now they’re in college. They figured it out somehow and manage their time.

[Anonymous]

My 16 yo usually wakes up on his own, but if he doesn’t, then yes, I wake him up.

[Anonymous]

One kid yes, one kid no. My son had always had a hard time waking up. Has adhd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wake mine up. I open the window shades right away and natural light comes in. It helps a lot.

I am up though. I would not do this if I wasn’t already awake.

Same

[Anonymous]

^ same. No electronics in bedroom. Phone, computer all plugged in downstairs. I get him up. I did the sane for older brother who adjusted to college just fine.

[Anonymous]

I wake up both teens. Didn’t even occur to me to make them set up alarms. I also prepare breakfast for them before waking them up 😃 it’s a short time that they’re a kid and will need to do all this on their own in a year or so. So, might as well enjoy an easier life while still living at home and going to school.

[Anonymous]

Indeed, teens can be sleepy. Yet…

My DC attends a boarding school where all freshman turn phones in to a charging station at 9pm. They don’t get them back until morning. Each student has an old school alarm clock, and manages to get themself up each morning. Somehow, necessity is the mother of invention (or in this case, self discipline) and they all manage just fine.

Take away the phone.
Buy a cheap alarm clock.
Do not wake them up. Let them own the fail if they fail. The beauty of failing when the stakes are low (grade 9) is that they likely won’t let it happen twice.

I really think life skills and habits need to be layered gradually. Let them do a load of laundry. Make a meal sometimes.

But by high school, it is wise to set the floor at:
Wake yourself up and shower on time
Track your assignments, long term and short, and get them in on time
Choose a healthy diet that you like and try not to eat too much crap
Get a summer job. A real job.

My oldest did not go to boarding school. We let the alarm clock be his struggle. I really wanted to wake him up, but only time I did was when we had air travel planned and there was no other choice. He developed the rise and shine muscle by November of freshman year.

You know your kids can do this, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wake mine up. I open the window shades right away and natural light comes in. It helps a lot.

I am up though. I would not do this if I wasn’t already awake.

How could you wake your kid up if you were sleeping? 😕

[Anonymous]

I wake my 16 yo up!

[Anonymous]

Why do people care if we wake our kids up? I wake them up if they are not getting up and I make a real breakfast every morning.

[Anonymous]

By MS kids should be capable of waking themselves up. Your son gets up and shuts his alarm off and then gets back in bed to sleep because he knows he can just rely on good old mom to wake him. He should have long mastered the skill of getting up and ready in the am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people care if we wake our kids up? I wake them up if they are not getting up and I make a real breakfast every morning.

Not sure people care. Real Brekkie is a good idea. I think they are just answering the question bc it was asked?

[Anonymous]

Our ds, 17, had a very hard time waking up for many years. Multiple alarms. We had a no phone/computer after 9pm rule until he could consistently get up on time. That didn't happen until the start of 12th grade. He now gets up on his own without an issue 13 out of 14 days. We are still working on the random days because he will go away to college next year. He has an ASD/ADHD diagnosis and im sure that plays into this.
His younger brother has always gone to sleep easily and wakes up before the alarm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Indeed, teens can be sleepy. Yet…

My DC attends a boarding school where all freshman turn phones in to a charging station at 9pm. They don’t get them back until morning. Each student has an old school alarm clock, and manages to get themself up each morning. Somehow, necessity is the mother of invention (or in this case, self discipline) and they all manage just fine.

Take away the phone.
Buy a cheap alarm clock.
Do not wake them up. Let them own the fail if they fail. The beauty of failing when the stakes are low (grade 9) is that they likely won’t let it happen twice.

I really think life skills and habits need to be layered gradually. Let them do a load of laundry. Make a meal sometimes.

But by high school, it is wise to set the floor at:
Wake yourself up and shower on time
Track your assignments, long term and short, and get them in on time
Choose a healthy diet that you like and try not to eat too much crap
Get a summer job. A real job.

My oldest did not go to boarding school. We let the alarm clock be his struggle. I really wanted to wake him up, but only time I did was when we had air travel planned and there was no other choice. He developed the rise and shine muscle by November of freshman year.

You know your kids can do this, right?

No one needs parenting advice from someone who outsourced parenting their young teen to a boarding school. Serious yikes!

[Anonymous]

My children have always gotten themselves up. They have alarm clocks