Shared immigration status

[Anonymous]

I would recommend anyone with a green card to pursue citizenship; a green card isn't a permanent place to stay; it is a pathway to citizenship.

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Anonymous wrote:So that means you are a legal immigrant with a green card. Unless they also want green card holders kicked out?

I honestly don't know. I fear they think we married for citizenship even though I never went through our marriage. Or maybe they lump me into the people they claim to hate because as a child I was here undocumented and they can't accept that. I'm truly not sure without a conversation with them. I thought we could at least have one not that they would give us the silent treatment

I'm an immigrant myself, a citizen after 20 years, and know immigration laws pretty well. Nobody gets deported for running a red light 20 years ago. This is just nonsense. I support ICE. Fully. I'm sick and tired of illegals sucking up resources just because they can. Your ILs are not picking up your message, because it's confrontational. They don't know immigration laws, just like you don't know immigration laws of say, Bulgaria. Not sure what you want from them? A promise you'll not get deported? They cannot give you that. If you used any resources before becoming a citizen, it may become a problem. They don't know what to say, because no matter what they say, it seems to be a problem for you. It's not their fault you were here undocumented as a child. In most countries, in fact in all I know, and I've lived and had long-term residence in 10 different ones, you'd get kicked out as soon as you're found out. I'm sure you had a better life here than in your home country, or you'd not have arrived here undocumented (and I hate this word, because you sure have documents somewhere). And if you hate it here or think you're entitled to stay no matter what and cannot, you know where your home country is.

You are delusional. ICE will come for you one day, and you will be on the receiving end. That you got yours and you don't want others to have the same opportunity is disgusting

People are not illegal. Some of them came here illegally, some by no fault of their own (brought here as babies or children by their parents), some to escape horrendous governments at their home countries, they should all be given an opportunity of having the American dream

You are confused, if people escaped their horrible governments at home, they should enter and be classified as refugees, and the US approves which "horrible government" meets that criteria. The rest are here because of various personal or economic reasons and should apply like every other person in that situation.

[Anonymous]

You didn't know they were racist before this? I find that hard to believe. Why didn't your spouse shut that convo down?

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Anonymous wrote:OP get a good immigration lawyer on retainer. Get yourself converted. Always carry at least a copy of your green card, even to the store--ask your attorney.

They have been detaining US born citizens who LOOK LIKE FOREIGNERS just in case. Sometimes their family doesn't even know where they were taken.

This is just so sad to me. And yes I will and I'm renewing my card this year and I'll file for an adjustment soon. I guess it's good I don't look like a foreigner just basic white girl with a slight texas accent

When you renew your card can't they deport you? Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket? If you are married to a citizen, why would't you become a citizen already? It's the only want to stay safe now.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg. That’s awful. I’m sorry.
Please stay safe. Green card is not enough.

Thank you. I'm in the process of adjusting now. I know and wish I had done it sooner.

I hope you are not on the list of countries ICE has targeted to deny US citizenship.

My FIL (who has passed) used to make negative comments about immigrants in his European country. The thing is.. he had two children (my spouse included) who are immigrants to another country, one being the US. I am also an immigrant here.

When he made those comments, I looked at him and said, "You realize that your two children and I are all immigrants..?", to which he responded, "Yes, but you all have jobs". I said, "How do you know which immigrants have jobs and which don't?" I also said to him, "People like you in your country probably look at me when I come visit and think the same thing.. 'oh those immigrants'. I suppose I shouldn't come visit then." He never answered, and just continued on with his diatribe.

My spouse was very upset and disappointed in FIL, and said to his face that he was being racist. But, that didn't stop FIL.

It's always, "I didn't mean you..." If they didn't know you and saw you on the street, they would mean you. These people are blind, deaf and dumb. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

Luckily, I didn't see or interact with FIL that much, especially after that.

[Anonymous]

"OP can I ask why you're not a citizen if you've been married for 12 years? I'm just curious because it seems like it puts you into a situation with this administration"

It is an urban myth that any foreigner here without proper documentation can marry a USA citizen and easily get citizenship. It doesn't work that way. A requirement is that the non-USA citizen entered the USA legally. You're SOL if you are here without a proper visa or if it expired. https://www.boundless.com/immigration-resources/marriage-based-green-cards-explained

And even if they did enter the USA legally, if they are from a country with a big backlog of people trying to come to the USA to join family, they'll wait for a LONG time.

"Over 1.17 million approved I-130 petitions were waiting for visa availability as of mid-2025
Countries with particularly high backlogs include Mexico, India, China, and the Philippines"

[Anonymous]

I've been living in the US for 20 years on various work visas and I'm waiting for a green card. We did not intend on getting US citizenship at first - we were just working here. But with US-born kids who feel American, first and foremost, and who wish to attend college here, we've come to realize that it's way less of a hassle to ask for a green card and later get citizenship, than it is to renew visas every few years. We've always paid taxes here so the only thing that would change is not having endless visa paperwork to do.

We're in a circle where a lot of wealthy, educated foreigners are making the same calculus - based on the cultural identity of their children, and what their children want.

This is how you live in a country legally for years without getting citizenship.

[Anonymous]

Did you not tell your DH and ILs that you were here on a U-visa? For the rest, look up U-visa. U-visa is very specific and very difficult to get. OPs circumstances don't apply to the 99% of immigrants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you not tell your DH and ILs that you were here on a U-visa? For the rest, look up U-visa. U-visa is very specific and very difficult to get. OPs circumstances don't apply to the 99% of immigrants.

Yes I told my DH. I didn't tell my in laws. It never came up and we were not close. And yes U-visa is very specific. Maybe I should have told them? But I was young and thought what if they protest and it puts DH in a weird spot? I don't know. I really don't.

[Anonymous]

Did I miss this -- do you have kids? The inlaws, if they are Grandparents, probably now have an intense fear that, if the marriage goes wrong, their DIL will/might move back to your country and take the kids.

Even if not logical, Grandparents might be very afraid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss this -- do you have kids? The inlaws, if they are Grandparents, probably now have an intense fear that, if the marriage goes wrong, their DIL will/might move back to your country and take the kids.

Even if not logical, Grandparents might be very afraid.

DH and I have a daughter. We've been married now for a decade and my status isn't tied to the marriage. Maybe but wouldn't they want to talk about that instead of just not calling their grandchildren (my daughter and her cousin)?

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Anonymous wrote:OP get a good immigration lawyer on retainer. Get yourself converted. Always carry at least a copy of your green card, even to the store--ask your attorney.

They have been detaining US born citizens who LOOK LIKE FOREIGNERS just in case. Sometimes their family doesn't even know where they were taken.

This is just so sad to me. And yes I will and I'm renewing my card this year and I'll file for an adjustment soon. I guess it's good I don't look like a foreigner just basic white girl with a slight texas accent

When you renew your card can't they deport you? Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket? If you are married to a citizen, why would't you become a citizen already? It's the only want to stay safe now.

I see posts on X about them dragging off citizen's spouses going for their naturalization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP get a good immigration lawyer on retainer. Get yourself converted. Always carry at least a copy of your green card, even to the store--ask your attorney.

They have been detaining US born citizens who LOOK LIKE FOREIGNERS just in case. Sometimes their family doesn't even know where they were taken.

This is just so sad to me. And yes I will and I'm renewing my card this year and I'll file for an adjustment soon. I guess it's good I don't look like a foreigner just basic white girl with a slight texas accent

When you renew your card can't they deport you? Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket? If you are married to a citizen, why would't you become a citizen already? It's the only want to stay safe now.

I see posts on X about them dragging off citizen's spouses going for their naturalization.

U-visa recipients are protected from deportation. This is a very specific visa and its extremely hard to get approved. It comes with a good sense of protection and pathway to citizenship.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are an oddity to them. They just happen to be acting odd too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So that means you are a legal immigrant with a green card. Unless they also want green card holders kicked out?

Of course they do they are MAGA stupid