Are divorced men solely looking for sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of them. I've dated a few that were freshly divorced, who had a dead bedroom for a couple years pre-divorce. They were super excited to have regular sex again. In my case they were also looking to date me exclusively, which was good, but they weren't emotionally ready for it.

So it depends on the guy. But in general, yes. It's usually not ALL they want, but yes.

Yes, once women get what they want, they decide that sex isn’t a priority.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness no.

When there is a divorce, the husband is usually remarried before the wife. Most men desperately need affection, ego-boosting, and someone to do the laundry and maintain social ties even more than they need sex.

This. Don't forget cooking and grocery shopping as well.

Initially they will just want sex. Eventually they will tire of caring for themselves and will marry again for someone to take care of them, esp as they get older.

[Anonymous]

That is not true or atleast in my friends' group in 40s. We are all very successful bunch and always focus on a good relationship and almost all of us are in a relationship and a recently divorced guy is taking his time before getting out.

[Anonymous]

Its a turn off to me that even if I were to find someone who could be q companion and a good sex partner, I have to be ok wirh him possibly having been with hundreds of women before. That is also a turn off to me. In my mind that person is like a prostitute being with people they barely know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its a turn off to me that even if I were to find someone who could be q companion and a good sex partner, I have to be ok wirh him possibly having been with hundreds of women before. That is also a turn off to me. In my mind that person is like a prostitute being with people they barely know.

You should get your anxiety treated. This is just weird ruminating that ruins the sexy time.

Ask a FWB to swap test results and use a condom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes a lot for a woman to evict the father of her children. So, divorced men are generally addicts of some sort, emotionally damaged scum incapable of pair bonding, closet cases, and other lower forms of life. They're generally trash too weak, lacking in morals, and undesirable to keep a family together despite the very low expectations men get to meet.

If you keep in mind that you're dealing with the bottom tier of the lesser half of the human race, then all the problems divorced men cause make sense. I get that many older women are stuck fishing in this polluted end of the pond as a practical matter, but don't blind yourself to what you're getting.

Please don't bother attacking me if you're a divorce man hurt by the truth or a woman dealing with a divorced man who is mad about the truth. You know divorce courts aren't sending their best.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t feel like they actually want to be in a relationship, and that all they want is sex. I’d think they’d want a true companion. What do you think?

They are always looking for a caretaker.

A woman to take care of care of them- their sex, their image, their ego, their home, their meals, their arm candy at events, their kids, their health, their holidays.

Some have money and think throwing money at the above for some named conversations is the way to go. Is that a “relationship”? Yes, a transactional one.

Yes, but at least in that case it's a transaction and not a one-sided taking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t feel like they actually want to be in a relationship, and that all they want is sex. I’d think they’d want a true companion. What do you think?

They are always looking for a caretaker.

A woman to take care of care of them- their sex, their image, their ego, their home, their meals, their arm candy at events, their kids, their health, their holidays.

Some have money and think throwing money at the above for some named conversations is the way to go. Is that a “relationship”? Yes, a transactional one.

Yes, but at least in that case it's a transaction and not a one-sided taking.

Pretty sure that was sarcasm when in 2025 some guy thinks throwing money around lets him off the hook entirely for being even a semi-decent spouse, father and homeowner, and just dumping on his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes a lot for a woman to evict the father of her children. So, divorced men are generally addicts of some sort, emotionally damaged scum incapable of pair bonding, closet cases, and other lower forms of life. They're generally trash too weak, lacking in morals, and undesirable to keep a family together despite the very low expectations men get to meet.

If you keep in mind that you're dealing with the bottom tier of the lesser half of the human race, then all the problems divorced men cause make sense. I get that many older women are stuck fishing in this polluted end of the pond as a practical matter, but don't blind yourself to what you're getting.

Please don't bother attacking me if you're a divorce man hurt by the truth or a woman dealing with a divorced man who is mad about the truth. You know divorce courts aren't sending their best.

This should win an essayist prize. So well said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A man who left his marriage doesn't want companionship. if he did he would have stayed married. he wants independence and lack of responsibility.

Most men don't leave their marriage, they get booted by women who are tired of handling 85% of everything.

No, many just decide it's just cheaper to keep her. Remember, men sacrifice their happiness for their family. Women are very quick to sacrifice their family for their happiness. Because women are selfish shrews.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A man who left his marriage doesn't want companionship. if he did he would have stayed married. he wants independence and lack of responsibility.

I left my marriage. I wanted companionship. I didn't have a gf when I left.

You can be both: “I want companionship for me!” “I don’t want the responsibilities of a wife, home and kids”. “I want companionship, someone to love me!” Me me me

Most people who divorce do it for themselves. Yes, some divorces are to protect the kids, but not most. But what do the divorcing people want afterwards? Most men and women I know want both sex and some kind of companionship. I'm not saying men and women are the same, but most are not content just getting sex. Obviously there are exceptions.

I feel like this is a huge generalization and not accurate. I am divorced and most divorced people I know do not fit your assumption.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A man who left his marriage doesn't want companionship. if he did he would have stayed married. he wants independence and lack of responsibility.

Most men don't leave their marriage, they get booted by women who are tired of handling 85% of everything.

No, many just decide it's just cheaper to keep her. Remember, men sacrifice their happiness for their family. Women are very quick to sacrifice their family for their happiness. Because women are selfish shrews.

You have it @ss backwards. But I agree it’s very very simple.

Women stay in a krappy marriage to protect and do right by the kids, and minimize their solo time with the krappy parent. These women are far from happy.
Kids first, Herself last.

Men stay in a krappy marriage because of the free high quality childcare, home mgmt, schedule mgmt, health mgmt, extra income, cleaning, cooking, as well as ego and fake Family Guy image.
Himself first, Work & community image second, Everyone else last.

Women leave the krappy marriage once the kids are launched and can set boundaries with the krappy parent.
Kids first, Herself last.

Men leave the krappy marriage for selfish reasons, they want to be on a pedestal and find a new woman to do so. They’ll Disney dad or bare minimum the kid stuff, that’s never been a priority anyhow.
Himself first, Everyone else last.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It takes a lot for a woman to evict the father of her children. So, divorced men are generally addicts of some sort, emotionally damaged scum incapable of pair bonding, closet cases, and other lower forms of life. They're generally trash too weak, lacking in morals, and undesirable to keep a family together despite the very low expectations men get to meet.

If you keep in mind that you're dealing with the bottom tier of the lesser half of the human race, then all the problems divorced men cause make sense. I get that many older women are stuck fishing in this polluted end of the pond as a practical matter, but don't blind yourself to what you're getting.

Please don't bother attacking me if you're a divorce man hurt by the truth or a woman dealing with a divorced man who is mad about the truth. You know divorce courts aren't sending their best.

Um. What? Men are just as likely to “evict” their cheating whores of a wife.

So bizarre how you assume most divorces are due to someone cheating.
Most divorces are due to a person failing a decent life partner/ spouse/ parent/ homeowner/ care-giver and everyone is better off split.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A man who left his marriage doesn't want companionship. if he did he would have stayed married. he wants independence and lack of responsibility.

I left my marriage. I wanted companionship. I didn't have a gf when I left.

You can be both: “I want companionship for me!” “I don’t want the responsibilities of a wife, home and kids”. “I want companionship, someone to love me!” Me me me

Most women with children took a long time and tried many things before pulling the trigger on divorce papers.

Most people who divorce do it for themselves. Yes, some divorces are to protect the kids, but not most. But what do the divorcing people want afterwards? Most men and women I know want both sex and some kind of companionship. I'm not saying men and women are the same, but most are not content just getting sex. Obviously there are exceptions.

I feel like this is a huge generalization and not accurate. I am divorced and most divorced people I know do not fit your assumption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t feel like they actually want to be in a relationship, and that all they want is sex. I’d think they’d want a true companion. What do you think?

Their self worth is driven by it.

Not their relationships or emotional support or attention the give, consistently or when it’s needed (different from when it’s convenient or performative). Just if they get sex when they want it.