If your spouse ruined something by accident in the process of trying to be helpful, how would you react?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We bought a house with a gorgeous pond in the backyard. There was a really beautiful low hanging branch from a flowering tree right over the water. In the summer, with the water lilies and flowing water it was one of my favorite things in our house. One day, to be “helpful” my husband went to go clear the weeds from the pond and instead of pulling vines or actual weeds, he decided he should cut the branch over the water because according to him it was blocking the sun.

When I saw what he did, I cried.

It probably took a good decade for the branch to grow to that size and there was no fixing it. The worst part is that he tried to argue that butchering the tree was a good thing. Hatred is not a strong enough word for how I felt in that moment. I’m still not over it tbh

Yikes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Forgot I posted this!

For context, my coworker's husband was cleaning the house, and while she normally cleans the area she does her hobby in, she's been picking up a lot of extra shifts at work and he was trying to help her out because it's gotten dusty (according to her). He accidentally knocked over a machine she uses and it broke. She lost it on him and in the process of venting about it at work, it sparked the discussion about how we would have reacted/have reacted.

I accidentally ruined something of DH's that shouldn't have gone in the dishwasher and he accidentally ruined an item of clothing in the dryer. Not a big deal and now we both pay extra attention or ask the other person if we aren't sure.

I mean, she has a right to be upset. She is entitled to her feelings. She isn’t divorcing the man over it so not a big deal honestly. Comparing her hobby that she invests time and money into to laundry is crazy to me. Also, saying what you would have done or how you would have reacted to something that you do not partake in (that particular hobby) is also crazy to me.

Not really. He broke a machine, not something she made. He can buy a new machine just like Ops husband can buy whatever he ruined in the laundry or she can buy what she ruined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Forgot I posted this!

For context, my coworker's husband was cleaning the house, and while she normally cleans the area she does her hobby in, she's been picking up a lot of extra shifts at work and he was trying to help her out because it's gotten dusty (according to her). He accidentally knocked over a machine she uses and it broke. She lost it on him and in the process of venting about it at work, it sparked the discussion about how we would have reacted/have reacted.

I accidentally ruined something of DH's that shouldn't have gone in the dishwasher and he accidentally ruined an item of clothing in the dryer. Not a big deal and now we both pay extra attention or ask the other person if we aren't sure.

I mean, she has a right to be upset. She is entitled to her feelings. She isn’t divorcing the man over it so not a big deal honestly. Comparing her hobby that she invests time and money into to laundry is crazy to me. Also, saying what you would have done or how you would have reacted to something that you do not partake in (that particular hobby) is also crazy to me.

Not really. He broke a machine, not something she made. He can buy a new machine just like Ops husband can buy whatever he ruined in the laundry or she can buy what she ruined.

Exactly! Instead of communicating beforehand or being careful, just keep breaking and losing things and rebuying them! Easy peasy! What’s next?

[Anonymous]

Amazon has a name for men who buy the same shaver or device multiple times a year….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Amazon has a name for men who buy the same shaver or device multiple times a year….

Now I’m curious. What is it?

[Anonymous]

Lazy mofo Sucker

[Anonymous]

The unused gift card people have a better one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Forgot I posted this!

For context, my coworker's husband was cleaning the house, and while she normally cleans the area she does her hobby in, she's been picking up a lot of extra shifts at work and he was trying to help her out because it's gotten dusty (according to her). He accidentally knocked over a machine she uses and it broke. She lost it on him and in the process of venting about it at work, it sparked the discussion about how we would have reacted/have reacted.

I accidentally ruined something of DH's that shouldn't have gone in the dishwasher and he accidentally ruined an item of clothing in the dryer. Not a big deal and now we both pay extra attention or ask the other person if we aren't sure.

These would bother me if the items indicated that the shouldn't have gone in the dishwasher/dryer. Adults should be able to read.

Knocking something over is truly an accident. If you're drunk, then that's frustrating. If you tripped on your shoelaces after your spouse pointed out to you that your shoes were untied, then that's annoying. But otherwise it's a mistake and mistakes happen.