Did your ex spouse end up with someone less or more attractive than you?

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Anonymous wrote:I find myself going for what was missing in my last relationship. I think a lot of my friends do that too. My previous BF was a very grownup dude but we had no passion. Like at all. Current BF is a bit of a feral man child but we have passion for days. At some point I'll find someone in the middle. Maybe this guy is your opposite in good ways.

What do mean by passion? Maybe I lack it and that's why I'm single. I'm a homebody guy and women always want to do stuff. I just want another boring woman like me. Do they exist?

They don't exist. Try to meet a boring-ish woman half way.

They do exist, but they are rare. Women do indeed want to do stuff all the time whether they are 25 or 85. That's just how women are.

They would be overweight and thus not attractive to men on the apps. Lack of active lifestyle shows in the looks

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He makes her feel safe and loved.

What more could anyone ask for???

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He married someone of a different race, and we couldn't be more different in personality, either. I'm just glad he's not my problem anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:No idea if my ex is seeing anyone, I don't really care.

I'm dating someone 16 years younger than he is, makes more money, and is WAY hotter. But more importantly, we have the same values and beliefs about relationships. BF believes in open communication and growth, xH believed everyone just needed to shut up and leave him alone.

Why does every single post from a woman makes the point that the guy she is NOW dating makes more money. It keeps coming up over and over.

For the same reason men are gonna brag about how they landed a younger, hotter woman. That’s just how society judges people’s value, and society judges you by what kind of partner you can land.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex H would probably say that I ended up with someone less attractive but hes smarter, infinitely more emotionally intelligent, adventurous, kind, safe, stable, best sex I've ever had, funny, and makes over 40x what my ex did. And I am happy as a f---ing clam.

Next time a woman tells you she doesn't care about how much you make she is lying to you

Unless she got a big divorce settlement, then she's going to want to date someone young and hot. If she makes her own money, she'll seek out someone who she feels is at least her equal in intelligence, money, and work ethic. And if the divorce broke her, she'll only date wealthy men if she dates at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I find myself going for what was missing in my last relationship. I think a lot of my friends do that too. My previous BF was a very grownup dude but we had no passion. Like at all. Current BF is a bit of a feral man child but we have passion for days. At some point I'll find someone in the middle. Maybe this guy is your opposite in good ways.

What do mean by passion? Maybe I lack it and that's why I'm single. I'm a homebody guy and women always want to do stuff. I just want another boring woman like me. Do they exist?

They don't exist. Try to meet a boring-ish woman half way.

They do exist, but they are rare. Women do indeed want to do stuff all the time whether they are 25 or 85. That's just how women are.

They would be overweight and thus not attractive to men on the apps. Lack of active lifestyle shows in the looks

This. They exist, but PP probably swipes left because they aren’t hot enough for him.

You’re not gonna find a homebody woman who’s also hot. She’s gonna be overweight, no makeup, baggy sweats all day. So pick what’s most important to you, looks or sluggishness.

Personally I don’t see why you can just get off the couch and go out. It’s fun. Women want to do two things, talk and have fun. Do those and you’ll have no problem finding dates.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is that old bold guy? I asked my daughter. She said "oh that's moms boyfiend". I was shocked. The guy looks like he is 70. My wife is only 40 and I am 46. Perhaps he is my age and just looks really old. I was surprised. I would have thought my ex was going to go for someone younger etc.

I see a large problem here and will save my additional comments. Is she your wife or is she your ex-wife?

Move on with your life and let her move on with hers

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Anonymous wrote:She is likely "starved" for love. Or, she opted for someone she believes is very unlikely to cheat on her. I heard that someone women recommend other women to go for the less attractive guy that other women don't pay attention to.

Otherwise it's not common for a divorced woman who is only 40 to seriously date a much older man. Men don't age well and by choosing someone much older, she is signing up to be a caregiver much sooner that she needs to be.

I'll also this. I think men will never understand what women truly look for. When a woman is genuinely looking for someone who will love her unconditionally, the person she ends up with sometimes surprises people. But it doesn't surprise her. I have seen countless people say things like "what is she doing with you?" More than I have heard "What is he doing with that woman?"

Hate to tell you men age far better than women.

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Anonymous wrote:She is likely "starved" for love. Or, she opted for someone she believes is very unlikely to cheat on her. I heard that someone women recommend other women to go for the less attractive guy that other women don't pay attention to.

Otherwise it's not common for a divorced woman who is only 40 to seriously date a much older man. Men don't age well and by choosing someone much older, she is signing up to be a caregiver much sooner that she needs to be.

I'll also this. I think men will never understand what women truly look for. When a woman is genuinely looking for someone who will love her unconditionally, the person she ends up with sometimes surprises people. But it doesn't surprise her. I have seen countless people say things like "what is she doing with you?" More than I have heard "What is he doing with that woman?"

Hate to tell you men age far better than women.

Your data is 10 years old.
Hate to tell you that now there are 15% more overweight men in the middle age group than the women. Excess weight shows in aging - growls, saggy belly, heart deceases, weird smells etc.
Average men age way worse than average women

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Anonymous wrote:Less attractive but she's much more accommodating and nicer

This describes my dad's situation too. Also horny, she told me. She and my mom (who apparently did not want to be with anyone else) are actually friendly. My mom didn't want to get back together with my dad but did start to appreciate him more after seeing him with his new woman.

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I ended up with someone younger, hotter, more fun, and just as smart and accomplished as my ex wife. So it's not exactly the older guy meets younger bimbo stereotype situation. My ex wife ended up with someone hotter than me. He's also older and a little dull, but they get along well. I'm glad he makes her happy.

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Men end up with hotter women. That's just how our society is. You are going to find a lot of unattractive women with attractive men. Bur you will find plenty attractive women with unattractive men. In fact some women feel insecure if they are dating someone more attractive than then. In fact do not be shocked if they le their friend start questioning his sexuality. I think in our society attractiveness is something that only women are measured against. It is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:She is likely "starved" for love. Or, she opted for someone she believes is very unlikely to cheat on her. I heard that someone women recommend other women to go for the less attractive guy that other women don't pay attention to.

Otherwise it's not common for a divorced woman who is only 40 to seriously date a much older man. Men don't age well and by choosing someone much older, she is signing up to be a caregiver much sooner that she needs to be.

I'll also this. I think men will never understand what women truly look for. When a woman is genuinely looking for someone who will love her unconditionally, the person she ends up with sometimes surprises people. But it doesn't surprise her. I have seen countless people say things like "what is she doing with you?" More than I have heard "What is he doing with that woman?"

Hate to tell you men age far better than women.

Your data is 10 years old.
Hate to tell you that now there are 15% more overweight men in the middle age group than the women. Excess weight shows in aging - growls, saggy belly, heart deceases, weird smells etc.
Average men age way worse than average women

Bless your heart, keep telling yourself that.

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Don't be a hater.
Mind your business OP.

She is not a man.

She probably zeroed in on the qualities you lacked.

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I'm only answering hypothetically, but my wife is out of my league. If we separated she'd have her pick of attractive men approaching her and I'd have to figure out how to get one woman to want to talk to me.