Did your ex spouse end up with someone less or more attractive than you?

[Anonymous]

Who is that old bold guy? I asked my daughter. She said "oh that's moms boyfiend". I was shocked. The guy looks like he is 70. My wife is only 40 and I am 46. Perhaps he is my age and just looks really old. I was surprised. I would have thought my ex was going to go for someone younger etc.

[Anonymous]

She is likely "starved" for love. Or, she opted for someone she believes is very unlikely to cheat on her. I heard that someone women recommend other women to go for the less attractive guy that other women don't pay attention to.

Otherwise it's not common for a divorced woman who is only 40 to seriously date a much older man. Men don't age well and by choosing someone much older, she is signing up to be a caregiver much sooner that she needs to be.

I'll also this. I think men will never understand what women truly look for. When a woman is genuinely looking for someone who will love her unconditionally, the person she ends up with sometimes surprises people. But it doesn't surprise her. I have seen countless people say things like "what is she doing with you?" More than I have heard "What is he doing with that woman?"

[Anonymous]

She went for the safe choice. Maybe she was fat and not skinny with a bunch of unattractive saggy skin all over. An old and wrinkly guy will see her a jackpot. Just saying ...

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's in poor health and very wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Don't be a hater.
Mind your business OP.

[Anonymous]

My uncle divorced his wife after 25 years of marriage.

He married a woman uglier than my aunt by a lot.

My aunt had no interest in keeping herself up or going out to dinner with work colleagues etc. She had no interests, period.

However, his new wife knew how to dress, take care of him the way he wanted, and was extremely intelligent. The second wife wanted the same things out of life.

[Anonymous]

Looks arent that important to some people. Other things are bigger priorities. I’m 28 and my boyfriend is 41, but he does look good/quite young for his age. And my ex was still judgmental and bitter at first.

[Anonymous]

My ex husband left me to be with his AP who is 57. He is 42 and I am 39. They are getting married next year. I only know her age because my son told me they celebrated her 57th birthday.

He came to our son's basketball game with his AP two weeks after our divorce.

I can only feel betrayed by ex. I loved him so much and did everything for him and yet he left me. I am still struggling in therapy. But better days are ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks arent that important to some people. Other things are bigger priorities. I’m 28 and my boyfriend is 41, but he does look good/quite young for his age. And my ex was still judgmental and bitter at first.

It seems to affect men more than women. I don't think women care as much who you date next because once women move on they never look back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My uncle divorced his wife after 25 years of marriage.

He married a woman uglier than my aunt by a lot.

My aunt had no interest in keeping herself up or going out to dinner with work colleagues etc. She had no interests, period.

However, his new wife knew how to dress, take care of him the way he wanted, and was extremely intelligent. The second wife wanted the same things out of life.

You mean she had no interests outside her husband and kids, like a good mom, and was probably tired from work.
Isn't marriage a lifetime commitment with vows as people age?
Be careful- you are perpetuating the misogynistic trope of trading in your old committed outdated wife for a younger new version. It may happen to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband left me to be with his AP who is 57. He is 42 and I am 39. They are getting married next year. I only know her age because my son told me they celebrated her 57th birthday.

He came to our son's basketball game with his AP two weeks after our divorce.

I can only feel betrayed by ex. I loved him so much and did everything for him and yet he left me. I am still struggling in therapy. But better days are ahead.

You are only 39. You will be okay. Be glad he left now and not when you are 50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband left me to be with his AP who is 57. He is 42 and I am 39. They are getting married next year. I only know her age because my son told me they celebrated her 57th birthday.

He came to our son's basketball game with his AP two weeks after our divorce.

I can only feel betrayed by ex. I loved him so much and did everything for him and yet he left me. I am still struggling in therapy. But better days are ahead.

Betrayal trauma and the discard for pure limerence creates severe PTSD and lack of trust and belief in anything for the abandoned spouse. And it often happens to the most giving, loving people who don't deserve it at all.
Take care of yourself. He is a scumbag.

[Anonymous]

Less attractive but she's much more accommodating and nicer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is that old bold guy? I asked my daughter. She said "oh that's moms boyfiend". I was shocked. The guy looks like he is 70. My wife is only 40 and I am 46. Perhaps he is my age and just looks really old. I was surprised. I would have thought my ex was going to go for someone younger etc.

So you, a young and beautiful man, couldn't make her happy, and you are shocked that she is choosing to focus on other qualities instead of looks this time. Looks like she is learning from her mistakes. Are you learning from yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he's in poor health and very wealthy.

You are diabolical. Lol