Middle Aged Women And Wandering Eye

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

I am not a man, but if I were a man interested in a woman I saw in a store or while out and about, I would introduce myself, first name and last name, and say " I'd like to take you out on a coffee date. Here is my number. Please call me if you are interested."

Bad advice. You come off as weak and hesitant, and you shift the burden of pursuit to the woman. There are a lot of women who might be interested but would simply not pick up the phone to call you. Obviously it's not good to come across as too pushy, but this approach errs too far in the other direction.

How would you approach this? I am just curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what has made so many of these women so angry but I definitely see attractive middle aged men at stores all the time.

That you perceive a notable amount of this anger in this thread says something interesting about how threatening you find the world.

+1.

It's either women are throwing themselves at them or women are bitter. 😆

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They were probably wondering what you were doing in World Market at noon on a Monday.

Lloyd Dobler: I got a question. If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like the Gas 'n' Sip on a Saturday night completely alone drinking beers with no women anywhere?

Joe: By choice, man.

Thanks a lot, PP. Now I have “Joe lies . . . Joe lies when he cries” playing in my head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

NP. Woman here. You should find an innocent topic to remark on or pose a question. The remark or question should be from the immediate surroundings:
"Oh, it's nice they carry these chocolate oranges this year, too!"
Then: "Do you shop here often? My daughter wanted me to get Christmas stockings."
And so on, picking up on her replies.

After a three-minute conversation, after she could see that you are not a creep, you can say: "I have enjoyed talking to you. I'd love to see you again, if you don't mind." Then she either gives uou her phone number or you give her yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

NP. Woman here. You should find an innocent topic to remark on or pose a question. The remark or question should be from the immediate surroundings:
"Oh, it's nice they carry these chocolate oranges this year, too!"
Then: "Do you shop here often? My daughter wanted me to get Christmas stockings."
And so on, picking up on her replies.

After a three-minute conversation, after she could see that you are not a creep, you can say: "I have enjoyed talking to you. I'd love to see you again, if you don't mind." Then she either gives uou her phone number or you give her yours.

"Those pants really showcase what a fine ass you have!" Like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

NP. Woman here. You should find an innocent topic to remark on or pose a question. The remark or question should be from the immediate surroundings:
"Oh, it's nice they carry these chocolate oranges this year, too!"
Then: "Do you shop here often? My daughter wanted me to get Christmas stockings."
And so on, picking up on her replies.

After a three-minute conversation, after she could see that you are not a creep, you can say: "I have enjoyed talking to you. I'd love to see you again, if you don't mind." Then she either gives uou her phone number or you give her yours.

Lol did you coach my ex? That's probably how she gave her AP her number

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

NP. Woman here. You should find an innocent topic to remark on or pose a question. The remark or question should be from the immediate surroundings:
"Oh, it's nice they carry these chocolate oranges this year, too!"
Then: "Do you shop here often? My daughter wanted me to get Christmas stockings."
And so on, picking up on her replies.

After a three-minute conversation, after she could see that you are not a creep, you can say: "I have enjoyed talking to you. I'd love to see you again, if you don't mind." Then she either gives uou her phone number or you give her yours.

"Those pants really showcase what a fine ass you have!" Like that?

😆

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a man in this situation and want to take things further. What do you do or say? I'm roughly in OP's situation fairly often, maybe once or twice a week. I wasn't a big lady's man when I was younger but now I've got a bit of a silver fox thing going. I'm not sure how to actually talk to women in stores, at crosswalks, etc.

NP. Woman here. You should find an innocent topic to remark on or pose a question. The remark or question should be from the immediate surroundings:
"Oh, it's nice they carry these chocolate oranges this year, too!"
Then: "Do you shop here often? My daughter wanted me to get Christmas stockings."
And so on, picking up on her replies.

After a three-minute conversation, after she could see that you are not a creep, you can say: "I have enjoyed talking to you. I'd love to see you again, if you don't mind." Then she either gives uou her phone number or you give her yours.

Lol did you coach my ex? That's probably how she gave her AP her number

Lol. This thread is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Middle age women have really nice asses. I don't know it's like they have written on their forehead take me I am soaked right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle age women have really nice asses. I don't know it's like they have written on their forehead take me I am soaked right now.

I do love them dripping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle age women have really nice asses. I don't know it's like they have written on their forehead take me I am soaked right now.

I agree. Those yoga pants and the jiggly cheeks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were probably wondering what you were doing in World Market at noon on a Monday.

Seriously! “Look at this sweet hapless husband shopping for gifts”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why women choose the bear, creep.

+1.

Some men are something else. This is why women wear biatch resting face. You cannot be a happy smiling woman without some man assuming that you are flirting. It's weird.

They were probably happy because they were Christmas shopping and they saw a man doing some of the same emotional labor work. And they thought the world was making progress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not very bright. People flirt all the time without any intention of going further.

As a reasonably cute woman, I can guarantee that if I walk into a room full of married men, I get looks and conversation starters. The immense majority are not out to proposition me. They want to spend a few minutes getting attention from an attractive member of the opposite sex while they wait for their kid’s activity or pick up stuff at Home Depot. It makes them feel happy, which is understandable.

Same thing here.

This is emotional cheating. You are a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your ego is not your amigo, Friend

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