What would you change about your sex life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

I wish people would stop with the narratives that women are supposed to find fat men who don’t make an effort to be attractive. Sure, looks aren’t everything, but I cannot get excited about sex with a man that does look really good. I expect the reverse is true.

[Anonymous]

Everything- Quality, Quantity and DW. If I had a Time Machine, my life would be different today without a doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd like more orgasms that aren't self-driven. BF is great at PIV sex, but lazy about everything else. It'll be a factor in our eventual breakup.

This. Except it’s my husband and we aren’t going to divorce over it.
When I was young and stupid, I thought that this would get better with time, and he would learn what I liked. Hahahahahaha! No one gets LESS lazy in bed after marriage.

[Anonymous]

Variety, please. More than one position and I’d love to receive oral once in a while.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More frequently. We almost never do it. She surprised me on our last vacation by initiating sex every morning. I wasn't expecting it at all. Then we went back to our regular lives when we got home

How often and ages too please? I understand at older age, people do tend to do it less for lots of reasons including medical.

I'm 50, she's late 40s. Our bedroom has been pretty dead for years now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

44 yo female here. I've had 11 PIV partners in my life and have never once had an O from PIV intercourse. I only O through masturbation and oral sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

44 yo female here. I've had 11 PIV partners in my life and have never once had an O from PIV intercourse. I only O through masturbation and oral sex.

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wow! are you overweight or have some hormonal issues? It is not right if you don't reach O from PIV.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53 with the (40-something) BF who doesn't make me finish. We have talked about it. Multiple times. After awhile it just feels mean to keep bringing it up. I do enjoy hanging with him, but I honestly can't see myself staying with someone long term who doesn't even try to help me finish. At all.

Last two boyfriends were lazy about this too. Other guys I've dated have not been because I'm not difficult. I'm actually very predictable. My friends and I think that some guys think they're a catch and don't have to try- I'm not the only one. Dating sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

44 yo female here. I've had 11 PIV partners in my life and have never once had an O from PIV intercourse. I only O through masturbation and oral sex.

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wow! are you overweight or have some hormonal issues? It is not right if you don't reach O from PIV.

Tell me you don’t know anything about women without telling me you don’t know anything about women… I’m 52, 15 partners, and same (+ manual with current partner). PIV does.not.do.it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

I have the same issue. Advice has been don’t put pressure on her. However, even if she doesn’t feel pressured, the issue likely isn’t resolved.

We went to counseling for the same thing. The therapist recommended we agree to a schedule, and the ground rules are you dont skip and only delay for a discussed reason. So for us Friday night is sex night. We both know it, make time for it, and if one of us is truly tired or not feeling well then Saturday is the day. After 5 years it still works. No more "who is initiating". No more "when is the next time, if ever". Nothing prevents spontaneity in between but we stick to the plan. It works. Thats 52 times a year, at least, without every time being a mind game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

44 yo female here. I've had 11 PIV partners in my life and have never once had an O from PIV intercourse. I only O through masturbation and oral sex.

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wow! are you overweight or have some hormonal issues? It is not right if you don't reach O from PIV.

You’re an absolute idiot. You do realize you’re talking to a woman and not a man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd like to be a little thinner. Does that count? And I'd like to orgasm more easily - changing hormones and it isn't as easy any more. I'd like my spouse to be a good deal thinner, as well.

How old are you? Same problem of getting O with me too and I am 43F and have hormonal imbalance.

I'm 55. Transitioning into menopause.

43 is very young for not reaching O or low sex drive. are you overweight or any other medical issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Variety, please. More than one position and I’d love to receive oral once in a while.

This + 100. No Bjs and mostly two positions made sex life very boring. There were other issues but these were main few for our divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want my wife to be able to O with me.

Female PIV O frequency and intensity is a function of her partner's attractiveness. High value mates give females more Os.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10429993/

Stop. Just stop. This is more like a guy’s perspective. Women aren’t really like this. There are a lot of factors, some of them biological.

44 yo female here. I've had 11 PIV partners in my life and have never once had an O from PIV intercourse. I only O through masturbation and oral sex.

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wow! are you overweight or have some hormonal issues? It is not right if you don't reach O from PIV.

Not Pp that’s actually not true. Mary Claire Haver just did a podcast on it. Apparently a subset of women, like more than 50%, don’t generally get there with PIV. Who knew?