Staying on SSRI to tolerate my husband

[Anonymous]

OP, you should divorce. Why wouldn't you? Your DH has drawn a line in the sand. He should initiate the divorce.

[Anonymous]

People with mental problems are always going to say it's because of someone/something else. It's not for us to decide if Op needs meds or not. Answer is, DH is leaving if she refused meds her doctor has ordered.

[Anonymous]

Divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In like this but flipped
DH is on SSRI so i can tolerate him

OP’s DH probably thinking the same

OP here. That’s exactly what he thinks. To him I’m the stereotypical crazy woman without the meds. Never would he call into question his role in driving me nuts.

He does not sound so great to me.

Has he said stuff like the above to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Accept that it's an ultimatum. Op, you've been told.

Btw, he probably has no opinion about which med/dosage. Consider taking him to a doctor's appointment if discussing med/dosage would help. But that should not be your ultimatum. He does not need to do that. It sounds like he's serious and we, without any more information, can only assume he knows what he's talking about - stay on meds or your marriage is ending.

What’s an ultimatum?
What has she been told?
Did a post get deleted?

Her do nothing husband didn’t like being called out for doing nothing so he demands his wife be on drugs?!

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should divorce. Why wouldn't you? Your DH has drawn a line in the sand. He should initiate the divorce.

What is the line he dew in the sand?

He refuses to pitch in on the child rearing work and property work and in order to shut up Op from asking him or being hurt & upset by his misbehavior she should be on Happy Drugs plus keep doing everything - mother, father all homeowner roles?

The paternity. Must be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People with mental problems are always going to say it's because of someone/something else. It's not for us to decide if Op needs meds or not. Answer is, DH is leaving if she refused meds her doctor has ordered.

DH is leaving because he doesn’t want accountability for not pulling his weight with the family.

The drugs the wife so she shuts up thing is jsut a red herring.

Document everything OP.

[Anonymous]

What’s your diagnosis for the ssri? Acute depression and anxiety?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your diagnosis for the ssri? Acute depression and anxiety?

I'm curious what life is like when you're on the medication. Just mildly pissed off but don't explode? Or you don't care about the slights?

Is it possible you're in perimenopause? Hormonal fluctuations can really amp up irritability. Maybe an ssri is right, maybe therapy is right, maybe hormonal treatment is right, hard to tell.

[Anonymous]

So anyone who gets mad at him for checking out gets out on SSRIs?

[Anonymous]

I’d give anything for my DH to be a good and present father, and wouldn’t give a crap if he ever bought an article of clothing or a bday gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In like this but flipped
DH is on SSRI so i can tolerate him

OP’s DH probably thinking the same

OP here. That’s exactly what he thinks. To him I’m the stereotypical crazy woman without the meds. Never would he call into question his role in driving me nuts.

Both can be true. Some people have spouses like this and don't need SSRIs. Some people need SSRIs and don't have spouses like this. You are connecting them, but they may not be connected.

[Anonymous]

My sister did the exact same thing for the exact same reasons. She worried I would judge her, but it just made me wonder if she was being smarter than me. Life is stressful. If you can take something that takes the edge off and is safe, hey. No judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In like this but flipped
DH is on SSRI so i can tolerate him

OP’s DH probably thinking the same

OP here. That’s exactly what he thinks. To him I’m the stereotypical crazy woman without the meds. Never would he call into question his role in driving me nuts.

You’ve described the dynamic of most marriages, including mine. DH prob wishes I was on an SSRI. If it helps you in this phase of life, go on it.

Other things you can try that don’t involve your husband doing more (which he should, but if it’s anything like my marriage, is prob a losing battle):
- daily walks
- therapy for yourself
- hire more help around the house to reduce mental load (nanny for laundry, cleaning, preparing kids meals or cleaning service or meal prepper etc.)
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[Anonymous]

A doctor thinks she needs mental health meds

Gee maybe she does!