Does your DH playfully smack you on the butt? Is it annoying or appreciated?

[Anonymous]

It’s annoyingly appreciated over here.

[Anonymous]

My wife expects it and gets annoyed if I don't - she says "hey, you forgot to pay the wife tax."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Time and place dictate my response, he knows the time and place.

This. And, a gentle touch, not a slap.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

He never has and I wish he would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was one of the reasons I divorced. I was a SA victim (many times over) and it would send me into an absolute panic attack anytime he'd unexpectedly smack my butt. I asked him to stop, sobbed but he never stopped.

I’m glad that you protected your peace.

[Anonymous]

So the survey includes both responses, but it appears that more say "appreciated" than "annoying." That's what I would have expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny story about this: I recognize I did this to my wife all the time. I'm handsy and she has a great butt. One day she mentioned that she found it annoying and didn't want me to do it any more... she was overstimulated and outtouched. Sucks for me but cool... your body, your rules. I stopped cold turkey and got over it pretty quickly. She lasted about two weeks before admitting that she missed it because the little taps "made her feel seen."

Now I have to consciously give her a little pat every couple of days or so.

I don't believe you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me angry angry angry.

Are you an uptight lass in general?

dp Are you a jerk, in general?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I bend down and bite that beautiful butt. She knows if she pulls away, I'll bite harder. She loves our play but she also gets even. When she's in the kitchen, if she decides to go after me it's not going to be a love pat. It will be with some hard kitchen implement as hard as she can swing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the survey includes both responses, but it appears that more say "appreciated" than "annoying." That's what I would have expected.

Does it matter? You need to ask anyone if they want to be “smacked” before you do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the survey includes both responses, but it appears that more say "appreciated" than "annoying." That's what I would have expected.

Does it matter? You need to ask anyone if they want to be “smacked” before you do it.

Not every time. That takes the fun out of it. Besides, they come to expect it to the point it's almost never a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the survey includes both responses, but it appears that more say "appreciated" than "annoying." That's what I would have expected.

Does it matter? You need to ask anyone if they want to be “smacked” before you do it.

Do you have to ask your spouse for a hug, to hold hands, to put your arm around them, to cuddle?

I'm not sure if you're misinterpreting "smack" as something that has to be violent or painful, but a little tap/pat between married partners shouldn't always require permission.

[Anonymous]

No. This is sexual harassment or assault. No woman should be slapped on the butt. Just because you're married doesn't change anything. Sexual assault can occur even in marriages.
I can't believe many posters here find it acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Silly question I know, but recently got into a discussion about this with other couple friends and trying to widen the survey.

No and if he ever did I’d turn around and punch him in the face my father raised me well

Who does this?

men that are attracted to their wives, sexually.

Hopefully you know enough that your sexual attraction does not entitle you to do things she doesn’t like. right?

But being in a relationship entitles you to a sense of playfulness, which is all this is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me angry angry angry.

Are you an uptight lass in general?

dp Are you a jerk, in general?

I am. Are you usually a twat this way? And is the pp an uptight lass?