Does your DH playfully smack you on the butt? Is it annoying or appreciated?

[Anonymous]

If I am cooking or washing dishes it sends me into a murderous rage.

Any other time, I'm fine with a gentle pat.

[Anonymous]

ofcourse time and place but we are normal or chillin, then I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH claims that this is playful but only does it when I am in the kitchen working with open flame or reaching my arms into a hot oven. I have to keep one eye out and stop any cooking if he is in the kitchen. This is an amusing game for him -- but not for me. I think one of the appeals of watching these tradwife blogs is that a women creates a nice dish in her kitchen while free from harassment. That is the real fantasy. I am probably not the only one putting up with this.

I don’t think cooking while free from harassment is unusual, definitely not unusual enough to warrant watching trad wife videos. If you’ve expressed your feelings, your husband is a real jerk to continue his “amusing” game. I can’t imagine this is the only way he is a *hole. Sorry you’ve got such a jerk on your hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time and place dictate my response, he knows the time and place.

This. And, a gentle touch, not a slap.

[Anonymous]

DH and I both cover our butt and walk sideways up the stairs and we laugh the whole time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time and place dictate my response, he knows the time and place.

This

I don't have a problem with it in general but once he did it when I had Air Pods in (so I didn't hear him coming) and I was bent over picking laundry up from the floor. He smacked my butt and I whipped around with the pants in my hand and they slapped him across the face. I actually experienced genuine fright in the moment and reacted accordingly. He was obviously upset about being struck by the pants but I explained that while I was sorry, it was a reaction to what he had done. That was the last time he did it in the wrong place/wrong time.

[Anonymous]

I like it. I’d never say this, but sometimes I wish it were a little harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I am cooking or washing dishes it sends me into a murderous rage.

Any other time, I'm fine with a gentle pat.

This made me laugh. So true. I wish I could have more fun with it but geez…read the room.

[Anonymous]

So are men doing this to be playful or to assert their dominance? And why is it so upsetting to some of us but others like it? What happened in our childhood? Why do men think this is a good way to express their love for us?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like it. It never gets old. The secret to a happy relationship is being playful with each other.

Not everyone would find that playful. I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So are men doing this to be playful or to assert their dominance? And why is it so upsetting to some of us but others like it? What happened in our childhood? Why do men think this is a good way to express their love for us?

Oh please, give it a rest. It’s just playful flirting. No need to psychoanalize and if you don’t like it, just say so!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like it. I’d never say this, but sometimes I wish it were a little harder.

Call me.

[Anonymous]

Once I awhile he’ll give a love tap on my butt but never a slap.

[Anonymous]

I am a fan of him grabbing my boobs and going “honk, honk”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like it. I’d never say this, but sometimes I wish it were a little harder.

Why would you never say that? What kind of a marriage do you have that that is not an acceptable topic of conversation?