Why is it harder to get a man to commit the older you get?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's the opposite. The number of divorced men who want to jump into the next marriage asap is creepy. It's like they're racing their ex to the altar. Maybe it's an ego thing - to prove they weren't the problem in the last marriage.

If you mean highly attractive, desirable men with good personalities, then they're probably confirmed bachelors. It's really hard to imagine changing your whole life for a person the longer you've actually lived that life.

I’m not sure that it is an ego thing, so much as it is a hmm-there-is-no-dinner-ready-and-no-one-planned-holiday-decorations-and-I-am-going-on-travel-for-work-and-have-no-clean-socks thing. Even if it isn’t this conscious, there has been a downgrade in lifestyle that they didn’t see coming— because they didn’t pay any attention to how much work their wife was doing. Probably part of why they got divorced in the first place. So you probably don’t want one of these.

Oh, of course, all of that makes sense. No man who got dumped by his last wife and is already looking to jump into a new marriage with no attempt to have learned anything is worthwhile. I sidestep all of these types of men. I am just pointing out that there are a lot of them. I have actually encountered more divorced men like this than divorced men who don't want to settle down.

This is exactly my situation and my ex.

If your ex is looking to jump into a new marriage, what do you care? Root him on. Let him go from divorce to divorce and hopefully stroke out early from all the stress.