Why is it harder to get a man to commit the older you get?

[Anonymous]

I think it's the opposite. The number of divorced men who want to jump into the next marriage asap is creepy. It's like they're racing their ex to the altar. Maybe it's an ego thing - to prove they weren't the problem in the last marriage.

If you mean highly attractive, desirable men with good personalities, then they're probably confirmed bachelors. It's really hard to imagine changing your whole life for a person the longer you've actually lived that life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though.

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all, can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find marital commitment leads women to be lazy in a relationship and less sexually interested. Since I no longer want to make babies, I'm not inclined to commit. Exclusive dating? Ok, but not essential.

As long as you’re up front about this and not wasting the time of a woman who does want babies, theres nothing wrong with this.

[Anonymous]

What’s the point?

What’s your past the age of building a life together why would you marry?

[Anonymous]

The trick is to go young. I’m 40 and dating a 30yo guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consider using a sperm donor to have a baby. The pool of single men who have never had kids and want to get married and start a family, particularly those aged 35 and older, is limited. And you'll be competing with younger women for these men, so you gotta be realistic. Better to be a single parent by choice than to raise a child with a bad partner, and being a single parent is infinitely more satisfying than becoming a step-parent.

But after all that, if this isn’t about having kids then don’t get married - there’s too much downside!

Being a single parent by choice is something that only the top 1-2% of society can financially afford.

[Anonymous]

“Men are whores” __Stephen A.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider using a sperm donor to have a baby. The pool of single men who have never had kids and want to get married and start a family, particularly those aged 35 and older, is limited. And you'll be competing with younger women for these men, so you gotta be realistic. Better to be a single parent by choice than to raise a child with a bad partner, and being a single parent is infinitely more satisfying than becoming a step-parent.

But after all that, if this isn’t about having kids then don’t get married - there’s too much downside!

Being a single parent by choice is something that only the top 1-2% of society can financially afford.

This is not true. Many people can afford it in this area. They will have to give up on all the fancy extras though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though.

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all, can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.

_ex

Sorry, not interested in a _very_ _expensive_ call girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though.

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all, can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.

If you’re over 40, you really should not be looking for a man to support you. Presumably you’re not having kids or you have them already, so you won’t becoming a SAHM.

I say this as a woman. I’d feel utterly pathetic going on dates with men if I didn’t have a career at 40 and had to beg one to take care of me.

[Anonymous]

Let me tell you. You do not want my ex husband. He looks good on paper but is a cheater and
a lover bomber. He is very good looking and smooth talker. He has multiple women at the moment.

I will never remarry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though.

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all, can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.

It's a new day, a woman that can't support herself is not someone to build a life together with.

Men get sick and if a woman can't step up then you are just a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider using a sperm donor to have a baby. The pool of single men who have never had kids and want to get married and start a family, particularly those aged 35 and older, is limited. And you'll be competing with younger women for these men, so you gotta be realistic. Better to be a single parent by choice than to raise a child with a bad partner, and being a single parent is infinitely more satisfying than becoming a step-parent.

But after all that, if this isn’t about having kids then don’t get married - there’s too much downside!

Being a single parent by choice is something that only the top 1-2% of society can financially afford.

Nope my niece is doing it and she is not a top 1%er. She does make a good salary and she bought her own house in her early 30's but at 37 she is happily a single mom by choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though.

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all, can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.

Utterly useless woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's the opposite. The number of divorced men who want to jump into the next marriage asap is creepy. It's like they're racing their ex to the altar. Maybe it's an ego thing - to prove they weren't the problem in the last marriage.

If you mean highly attractive, desirable men with good personalities, then they're probably confirmed bachelors. It's really hard to imagine changing your whole life for a person the longer you've actually lived that life.

I’m not sure that it is an ego thing, so much as it is a hmm-there-is-no-dinner-ready-and-no-one-planned-holiday-decorations-and-I-am-going-on-travel-for-work-and-have-no-clean-socks thing. Even if it isn’t this conscious, there has been a downgrade in lifestyle that they didn’t see coming— because they didn’t pay any attention to how much work their wife was doing. Probably part of why they got divorced in the first place. So you probably don’t want one of these.