If you found out someone badmouthed you, and it resulted in job loss, would you address it months later?

[Anonymous]

I dont understand why all of these people are assuming the rumor you heard is correct. You trusted her, right? So who is telling you this rumor, and why do you trust them over her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont understand why all of these people are assuming the rumor you heard is correct. You trusted her, right? So who is telling you this rumor, and why do you trust them over her?

Agree. Posters are recommending OP destroy a person’s life based on rumors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just quietly disengage. I would not respond at all.

If asked anything in person, just say "I'm so sorry. Too busy to chat right now" and then leave.

I mean, I run into her a LOT. We lived in very small middle of nowhere town.

I would say and do that even in a tiny town. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

I would send her a glitter bomb.

[Anonymous]

What exactly was she reporting you for?

[Anonymous]

Instead of focusing on her, I woud explore why you weren't able to see through her and work on enhancing your discernment. Karma will take care of her.

[Anonymous]

Can you bring a few of the teachers at the previous school over to where you are now? Start poaching the good ones and leave her wallowing in her dysfunction?

[Anonymous]

I work in finance, which is obviously a very different field, but something like this happened to me and I mostly let it go. BUT then the person actually end up getting himself fired from our previous organization and in my new role at a place I know he wanted to work, I went to recruiting and told them to put him on the do not hire list.

[Anonymous]

You can sue her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not bring it up. I would methodically do whatever I could to destroy that person’s life.

Ohhhh how?

I’d work behind the scenes to undermine them and cause the organization to lose confidence in them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your story even make sense yo you? Why would a principal in a school where teachers are leaving ever get rid of someone, good or bad? I think it’s possible you heard a bad rumor.

I assure you, this is the case. Which is why it was so tragic and toxic. I was/am an INCREDIBLE educator. The principal is running it into the ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont understand why all of these people are assuming the rumor you heard is correct. You trusted her, right? So who is telling you this rumor, and why do you trust them over her?

Agree. Posters are recommending OP destroy a person’s life based on rumors.

It is not a rumor. I stupidly ignored my gut, honestly, and "let her in" earlier in the school year. But then I suspected she turned on me, so I kept her at arms length. I knew she was unhappy with me as a teacher but I didn't know it was that bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you confront her, she will deny it. Then, what will you do/say? I would recommend you move on and live your best life.

Cut off contact and if she asks why, you can say you found out more information about her actions at the former job. Do not engage. Let her know you know she’s a skunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly was she reporting you for?

Her child was in my class. I worked my butt off for that kid, and all the kids. I tried to protect them from the violence and multiple evacuations due to another child in my class.

Instead of asking for support in my classroom, she reported that her child wasn't getting what he needed. To an extent, I agree, because we had a child who was charging at us, throwing pencils, and tossing chairs. No one was getting a proper education but good lord I tried...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you confront her, she will deny it. Then, what will you do/say? I would recommend you move on and live your best life.

Cut off contact and if she asks why, you can say you found out more information about her actions at the former job. Do not engage. Let her know you know she’s a skunk.

This was essentially my question. If she tries to engage, I kinda plan to ignore her. But I didn't know if she'd be so bold as to ask WHY I am cold to her.