S/o: infidelity for millennials/Gen Z nearly equal between women and men

[Anonymous]

The Internet/online dating changed everything. Affair websites, etc. Women that didn’t work used to not have access to men out in the suburbs, no office. Now they go online and bang men that will even come to their house while their spouse isn’t home.

Our society glamorizes cheating. Instagram, Facebook, etc are big players where people look up old boyfriends/girlfriends to cheat too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

“Self-care”. JFC what a dumb lying Ho

[Anonymous]

^ Hope she had her own $/job, it ain’t going to be a pretty ending when she gets caught…they all eventually get caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- according to research:

https://thoughtsonlifeandlove.com/infidelity-are-men-or-women-more-unfaithful/96033/

In younger generations (millennials and Gen Z), the rates of infidelity among men and women are nearly equal. The gender gap in cheating is most pronounced among older generations, where men were historically more likely to have extramarital affairs.

Do you agree with the research results here? Does it match your experience?

Where is the actual data? Your link is to an op-ed that states some stats that are not specific to age groups and doesn’t support your title.

Studies do show that women are actually less naturally monogamous than men but the linked article does not (instead, it just perpetuates the myth about men needing to spread their seed and bla bla bla).

Read the Vice link just below your post:

“On the higher side, there are reported rates of 50 percent of women admitting they have had intercourse with someone other than their spouse while married. I was surprised to learn that, among people in their 20s, married women outpace married men when it comes to infidelity. Also, in several US studies, male and female rates of infidelity are much closer than we’d imagine.”

Equality of infidelity stands.

It’s more than just 2 articles.

There is widespread research to support the fact that millennial (and younger gen) women cheat as much as men. And maybe more so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a good discussion:
https://www.vice.com/en/article/monogamy-may-be-even-more-difficult-for-women-than-it-is-for-men/

In monkeys and early human societies, women being promiscuous serves as a hedging strategy against male infertility. There is some other stuff about monkeys that seems like a stretch to apply to modern humans.

Oh man now I’m going to have that horrible Heart song in my head all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m telling my sons to stay single. I know of 5 30-something divorced due to wife’s cheating.

Mine are still late HS/early college- maybe it will change less sex overall for this demographic- they seem to be less hos0

I love that you're good with no grandchildren! Too many parents pressure their kids.

No grandchildren and her sons will probably end up incels. But I guess that’s what she wants - her sons all to herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Internet/online dating changed everything. Affair websites, etc. Women that didn’t work used to not have access to men out in the suburbs, no office. Now they go online and bang men that will even come to their house while their spouse isn’t home.

Our society glamorizes cheating. Instagram, Facebook, etc are big players where people look up old boyfriends/girlfriends to cheat too.

^ This. Sums it up nicely. Society is crumbling as always, in different ways now.

[Anonymous]

Eh. People have always thought society is crumbling. Generally it stays the same just different flavors. Better in some ways, worse in others.

Humans don’t mate for life — we already know this because 99.9% of us have boyfriends or girlfriends before marrying. And nobody is supposed to live long enough to be married for 30, 40, 50 years. We need a new model. We need to live in smaller, tight knit communities where a divorce wouldn’t change things much for the kids. We are so isolated from each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

This happens when we pressure girls and women into marrying the “nice” guy.

These a lot of societal conditioning to pick men you aren’t attracted to - just look at the number of movies and tv shows where an average or even ugly guy lands the hottie, where the hot girl learns to look beyond the superficial and picks the nice guy friend who was there all along. Yet you rarely see the opposite, men are taught that they are visual so of course they deserve an attractive woman.

I know as a teen and young adult, the guidance I got was “stay away from the bad boys and marry the boring ones!” Even a lot of the advice here is that sex will get better in time, so stick with the good guy and teach him (but reality is, you can’t teach pure, primal, sexual desire).

This leads to a LOT of women getting stuck in relationships or marriages with men they aren’t attracted to. Then along comes a man who makes them feel sexual and alive again, and they cheat.

Way better to just teach girls and women that yes, attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important. Figure out what turns you on, and find men who are both good AND sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want to put in effort to keep their romantic and sexual life fun. They’ve always had it handed to them. Women need more. Women are amazing generous partners as long as you act like you care. Sure, there can be lulls, but men stop caring about their marriage as soon as the ring is on. They think it means they don’t have to work anymore.

They don’t even put in the effort up to the ring point nowadays. I’ve started dating again recently and the vast majority of men can’t be bothered to take you on one date, they expect you to send nudes/sext immediately, and come over to hook up when they get horny at 2am. Not sure why this shift happened - I remember even back as a teenager and in college when we were all broke, guys could still figure out a “date”, even if it was just going on a picnic at a park or to a local swimming hole at the river.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

“Self-care”. JFC what a dumb lying Ho

What a user. She doesn’t have kids and is cheating. Why doesn’t she divorce? What an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

This happens when we pressure girls and women into marrying the “nice” guy.

These a lot of societal conditioning to pick men you aren’t attracted to - just look at the number of movies and tv shows where an average or even ugly guy lands the hottie, where the hot girl learns to look beyond the superficial and picks the nice guy friend who was there all along. Yet you rarely see the opposite, men are taught that they are visual so of course they deserve an attractive woman.

I know as a teen and young adult, the guidance I got was “stay away from the bad boys and marry the boring ones!” Even a lot of the advice here is that sex will get better in time, so stick with the good guy and teach him (but reality is, you can’t teach pure, primal, sexual desire).

This leads to a LOT of women getting stuck in relationships or marriages with men they aren’t attracted to. Then along comes a man who makes them feel sexual and alive again, and they cheat.

Way better to just teach girls and women that yes, attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important. Figure out what turns you on, and find men who are both good AND sexy.

This kinda tracks. She’s from the South, went to a southern college & was in a sorority, married a guy she knew from college. So I’m guessing there was probably a lot of social pressure to settle down quickly with a “nice” guy.

From what I gather, he doesn’t put in a lot of effort in the bedroom and she’s bored. He just gets off and doesn’t pay attention to her pleasure.

She’s actually very kinky and wants to explore her submissive side, but her husband is NOT the guy for that. It’s not in his nature to be domineering.

They both work and have well-earning white collar jobs. It sounds like they have a great lifestyle and spend a lot of time with friends, travelling, etc. So I can see why she doesn’t want to rock the boat. I asked her if she thinks he also fools around outside the marriage and she didn’t think he had it in him to put in the effort. Ouch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

This happens when we pressure girls and women into marrying the “nice” guy.

These a lot of societal conditioning to pick men you aren’t attracted to - just look at the number of movies and tv shows where an average or even ugly guy lands the hottie, where the hot girl learns to look beyond the superficial and picks the nice guy friend who was there all along. Yet you rarely see the opposite, men are taught that they are visual so of course they deserve an attractive woman.

I know as a teen and young adult, the guidance I got was “stay away from the bad boys and marry the boring ones!” Even a lot of the advice here is that sex will get better in time, so stick with the good guy and teach him (but reality is, you can’t teach pure, primal, sexual desire).

This leads to a LOT of women getting stuck in relationships or marriages with men they aren’t attracted to. Then along comes a man who makes them feel sexual and alive again, and they cheat.

Way better to just teach girls and women that yes, attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important. Figure out what turns you on, and find men who are both good AND sexy.

“Find men that are good and sexy.” Well of course, nobody has ever tried that before. Truly exceptional advice. Should be easy to do.

[Anonymous]

Kids today are all too fat to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this.

This happens when we pressure girls and women into marrying the “nice” guy.

These a lot of societal conditioning to pick men you aren’t attracted to - just look at the number of movies and tv shows where an average or even ugly guy lands the hottie, where the hot girl learns to look beyond the superficial and picks the nice guy friend who was there all along. Yet you rarely see the opposite, men are taught that they are visual so of course they deserve an attractive woman.

I know as a teen and young adult, the guidance I got was “stay away from the bad boys and marry the boring ones!” Even a lot of the advice here is that sex will get better in time, so stick with the good guy and teach him (but reality is, you can’t teach pure, primal, sexual desire).

This leads to a LOT of women getting stuck in relationships or marriages with men they aren’t attracted to. Then along comes a man who makes them feel sexual and alive again, and they cheat.

Way better to just teach girls and women that yes, attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important. Figure out what turns you on, and find men who are both good AND sexy.

“Find men that are good and sexy.” Well of course, nobody has ever tried that before. Truly exceptional advice. Should be easy to do.

Yep. Seek out the bad boys. You’re the one who has what it takes to change them.