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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Currently banging a married woman in her early 30s. No kids, she’s just bored with her “nice” vanilla husband. She admitted she’s cheated a couple times throughout the decade they’ve been married. She’s very discreet - no photos, disappearing messages, doesn’t give out her phone number, on birth control, etc.

In cases like these, there’s always a risk she’s bipolar or BPD; they are more apt to be hyper sexual. But this woman is incredibly even keeled, rational, no drama, not clingy, very health conscious. She said that this is something she “selfishly do for myself, similar to a spa day.” It’s as if it’s part of her self-care routine.

I was shocked. But there’s many women like this. [/quote]

This happens when we pressure girls and women into marrying the “nice” guy.

These a lot of societal conditioning to pick men you aren’t attracted to - just look at the number of movies and tv shows where an average or even ugly guy lands the hottie, where the hot girl learns to look beyond the superficial and picks the nice guy friend who was there all along. Yet you rarely see the opposite, men are taught that they are visual so of course they deserve an attractive woman.

I know as a teen and young adult, the guidance I got was “stay away from the bad boys and marry the boring ones!” Even a lot of the advice here is that sex will get better in time, so stick with the good guy and teach him (but reality is, you can’t teach pure, primal, sexual desire).

This leads to a LOT of women getting stuck in relationships or marriages with men they aren’t attracted to. Then along comes a man who makes them feel sexual and alive again, and they cheat.

Way better to just teach girls and women that yes, attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important. Figure out what turns you on, and find men who are both good AND sexy.[/quote]

This kinda tracks. She’s from the South, went to a southern college & was in a sorority, married a guy she knew from college. So I’m guessing there was probably a lot of social pressure to settle down quickly with a “nice” guy.

From what I gather, he doesn’t put in a lot of effort in the bedroom and she’s bored. He just gets off and doesn’t pay attention to her pleasure.

She’s actually very kinky and wants to explore her submissive side, but her husband is NOT the guy for that. It’s not in his nature to be domineering.

They both work and have well-earning white collar jobs. It sounds like they have a great lifestyle and spend a lot of time with friends, travelling, etc. So I can see why she doesn’t want to rock the boat. I asked her if she thinks he also fools around outside the marriage and she didn’t think he had it in him to put in the effort. Ouch.

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