Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why it will always be a man's world. Spending energy on this petty stuff.

Yeah, because a man dumped 10 lbs of watermelon on me that he couldn’t be bothered to eat or cut with 5 days to go until trash pickup.

So start eating the watermelon. And buy more containers. It takes about 5 minutes to cut up watermelon, but you've probably spent hours being furious.

If it's so easy, why couldn't her DH do it? That's the issue. It shouldn't always be on her to trail after him to complete his household tasks or clean up after him. He is a grown adult and parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not another husband bashing thread!!

You all must not be married!

Actually, we are.

[Anonymous]

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Over the weekend, I had to look at two stores before finding small watermelons.

You're obviously lying, because that doesn't fit the narrative of this thread.

Because there can only be one true story on the availability of small watermelons in the DMV. Everything else is a lie! A damn lie!

Because a PP said no store is out of small watermelons in August which is soo easily disproved as to be a worthless post.

[Anonymous]

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

Expressing gratitude is also healthy, right? Why no threads about great things your spouse does?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

Expressing gratitude is also healthy, right? Why no threads about great things your spouse does?

Why don't you start one instead of demanding other women stop venting about their husbands? Wtf is your actual problem?

[Anonymous]

My husband has never bought a watermelon or fruit or served them to his kids. Is that worse or better?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

Expressing gratitude is also healthy, right? Why no threads about great things your spouse does?

Why don't you start one instead of demanding other women stop venting about their husbands? Wtf is your actual problem?

But only ever venting and never expressing gratitude is bad for you. You want to be healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

No, it’s not true that it is healthy. It’s the equivalent of pouring gas on a fire.

https://time.com/7098679/is-venting-healthy/

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ranslation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

Translation: I am an abusive narcissist who will not accept any responsibility for problems in my relationships. Specifically, I will not accept the idea that my relationship issues could be, to any degree, my fault. This pattern carries over to the rest of my life, where I blame others for problems I create.

Instead of looking at aspects of my behavior I could improve, I will make sad, angry posts and try to hide this narcissism under the guise of venting. I feel distressed when someone asks me about my part in my problems, and it is awful for me to have anyone challenge what I post.

However, my narcissism forces me to come back, time and time again, and blame my DH since I cannot believe that I could contribute to any of my problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

Expressing gratitude is also healthy, right? Why no threads about great things your spouse does?

Why don't you start one instead of demanding other women stop venting about their husbands? Wtf is your actual problem?

DP. I have no interest in pretending that spreading poison is in any way healthy. You are the addicted smoker getting mad at all the other people complaining about second hand smoke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has never bought a watermelon or fruit or served them to his kids. Is that worse or better?

I am not the OP but I hate it when my DH buys fruit that he won't cut up or eat, nor will our DC eat it. Definitely prefer he buy nothing. I am happy to buy fruit for myself and DC since I know what we want and don't buy things I don't want to deal with (like a massive watermelon). But he does serve other food to our kid.

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ranslation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

Translation: I am an abusive narcissist who will not accept any responsibility for problems in my relationships. Specifically, I will not accept the idea that my relationship issues could be, to any degree, my fault. This pattern carries over to the rest of my life, where I blame others for problems I create.

Instead of looking at aspects of my behavior I could improve, I will make sad, angry posts and try to hide this narcissism under the guise of venting. I feel distressed when someone asks me about my part in my problems, and it is awful for me to have anyone challenge what I post.

However, my narcissism forces me to come back, time and time again, and blame my DH since I cannot believe that I could contribute to any of my problems.

Do you see how much time you spent developing a psychological profile for an anonymous poster on an anonymous forum? Do you get that this is unhinged behavior that is not normal?

[Anonymous]

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ranslation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

Translation: I am an abusive narcissist who will not accept any responsibility for problems in my relationships. Specifically, I will not accept the idea that my relationship issues could be, to any degree, my fault. This pattern carries over to the rest of my life, where I blame others for problems I create.

Instead of looking at aspects of my behavior I could improve, I will make sad, angry posts and try to hide this narcissism under the guise of venting. I feel distressed when someone asks me about my part in my problems, and it is awful for me to have anyone challenge what I post.

However, my narcissism forces me to come back, time and time again, and blame my DH since I cannot believe that I could contribute to any of my problems.

Do you see how much time you spent developing a psychological profile for an anonymous poster on an anonymous forum? Do you get that this is unhinged behavior that is not normal?

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

[Anonymous]

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ranslation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

Translation: I am an abusive narcissist who will not accept any responsibility for problems in my relationships. Specifically, I will not accept the idea that my relationship issues could be, to any degree, my fault. This pattern carries over to the rest of my life, where I blame others for problems I create.

Instead of looking at aspects of my behavior I could improve, I will make sad, angry posts and try to hide this narcissism under the guise of venting. I feel distressed when someone asks me about my part in my problems, and it is awful for me to have anyone challenge what I post.

However, my narcissism forces me to come back, time and time again, and blame my DH since I cannot believe that I could contribute to any of my problems.

Do you see how much time you spent developing a psychological profile for an anonymous poster on an anonymous forum? Do you get that this is unhinged behavior that is not normal?

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

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