How do I reinforce boundaries with my husband?
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Anonymous
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This is weird.
Divorce |
Anonymous
| If he saw you fall, it likely scared the F out of him, and this is how he’s managing his fear; it may be overboard, but it’s understandable. It’s a vulnerable time. |
Anonymous
| What's with all the posts about women with 1-6 week old babies? No way they're coming out of the woodwork by coincidence. It's getting so tired. I'm assuming trolls to generate ads for baby stuff. |
Anonymous
| He sounds nuts. Can you stay with you parents for a while to get away from him? |
Anonymous
Read the whole thread - husband was right. Op is breastfeeding and really does need a lot of food. First, this is such a sensitive time, wishing you so much luck. Your husband is also going through a big transition and probably nervous. I’m wondering if have you restricted in the past? As someone who has a history of this, not full blown disorder, but history of restricting and being worried about what I’m eating as many women are, your posts are really giving me vibes that you may have a history of this. The meals sound like they are actively trying to avoid carbs etc for example. Is it possible you have a history of being a bit rigid with your food? It may be subconscious but it may be affecting you. Your husband may be more aware of it than you can be because it’s so hard to see our own behavior. As much as you can try to be kind to yourself and your body. Feeding yourself is a gift to yourself and your baby. Having my older son really helped me heal my relationship with food as I realized that I didn’t want him to learn to fear food the way I did. Maybe your baby can do the same for you - to teach you it’s ok to enjoy it and not be so scared of feeling full. Your body is meant to be fed, and full, and satiated with a variety of foods including grains. Sending hugs! You got this. |
Anonymous
| Are you taking in the requisite amount of his protein? |
Anonymous
With a one week old, zero of his protein is the requisite amount, you psychopath. |
Anonymous
Same poster probably. Some obsessives on here who worry about everything. |
Anonymous
^ This is the correct answer if you want to be divorced. |
Anonymous
| You didn’t eat enough food for an entire week and fell. You knew you were dizzy several times and still didn’t eat enough. You could have been holding your newborn at the time. Your husband is right here. Right to step in when you clearly aren’t taking good enough care of yourself, and right to be concerned that you aren’t concerned about another fall while holding the baby. If you go a few months without feeling dizzy and he’s still insisting on controlling your meals then I’d say he’s being unreasonable, but right now he’s correct. |
Anonymous
| Oatmeal cookies are great snacks for lactation. |