Why are rich guys aholes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that some of the professions that make good money tend to be the ones that draw a-holes or create them via their training methods and what you have to do to get to the top. I'm thinking finance (which both draws and creates a-holes through the culture and training methods) and medicine (where surgeons are encouraged to develop God complexed).

And certain types of lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a you problem. You want to date rich guys, of course most rich guys are jerks everyone already knows that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

Let’s be honest here, your 3M networth is from your DH income not your barely above a Fed salary.

So you really have no idea what is required to make those big numbers and build a nest egg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s you OP. You felt compelled to share your income and net worth as if we care. It shows that you do though.

OP. I shared it bc if I didn’t, the post would immediately be derailed by people calling me a good digger and telling me to make my own money, which I already do.

Again, you make a very middle class salary — you have wealth because of your success at gold digging

Why are you insisting on dating rich guys now? Why not just date men making salaries like you or a Fed or school teacher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s you OP. You felt compelled to share your income and net worth as if we care. It shows that you do though.

OP. I shared it bc if I didn’t, the post would immediately be derailed by people calling me a good digger and telling me to make my own money, which I already do.

Again, you make a very middle class salary — you have wealth because of your success at gold digging

Why are you insisting on dating rich guys now? Why not just date men making salaries like you or a Fed or school teacher?

How do you know she made it from gold digging?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s you OP. You felt compelled to share your income and net worth as if we care. It shows that you do though.

OP. I shared it bc if I didn’t, the post would immediately be derailed by people calling me a good digger and telling me to make my own money, which I already do.

Again, you make a very middle class salary — you have wealth because of your success at gold digging

Why are you insisting on dating rich guys now? Why not just date men making salaries like you or a Fed or school teacher?

How do you know she made it from gold digging?

That or inheritance are the most likely explanations given the income.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s you OP. You felt compelled to share your income and net worth as if we care. It shows that you do though.

OP. I shared it bc if I didn’t, the post would immediately be derailed by people calling me a good digger and telling me to make my own money, which I already do.

Again, you make a very middle class salary — you have wealth because of your success at gold digging

Why are you insisting on dating rich guys now? Why not just date men making salaries like you or a Fed or school teacher?

How do you know she made it from gold digging?

That or inheritance are the most likely explanations given the income.

$3m NW is not that high for dmv and very realistic if she worked since 20s, purchased a house 20 years ago which appreciated since then, and had 401k in a simple S&P index. I have $5m 3 years post divorce. Yes both ex spouse and I worked but we made roughly same salaries just invested well so at the time of divorce we were at 7.5m which was split 50/50. It grew to $5m in 3 years in tech stocks and salary savings.

Men who don’t have any gold like calling more fortunate women gold diggers. It’s not wrong to seek a partner with similar lifestyle and values

[Anonymous]

In the 15 years I’ve been with DH he has made 100ish, 50ish, and 750ish at various points and hasn’t changed his personality once.

[Anonymous]

I think wealthy people of both genders tend to have some of the tendencies and traits OP is speaking about. It’s the money, not just guys with money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the nice ones got snapped up when they were still nobodies.

I married a nice no body. Then he started earning lots of money and, yes, I sae the change. He turned into a bit of an a$$. But then he lost his job and was nice again, so I see the correlation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the nice ones got snapped up when they were still nobodies.

I married a nice no body. Then he started earning lots of money and, yes, I sae the change. He turned into a bit of an a$$. But then he lost his job and was nice again, so I see the correlation.

Yea, my exH was like that. All loving and caring when his company was in trouble; back to A..h when it recovered. Riding his horse high: he would even tell me “who who you think you are ??”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and I can tell I also made this switch after I became wealthier than most of the men I dated.

Most of it is that I want someone at my same level - attractive, with money, etc. If they make significantly less than me, they need to bring other things to the table to make up for it.

I know everyone says "but what about true love?" and honestly there needs to be *something* about you to love. More than just being a good person, being a good person is the bare minimum.

It's also wildly unattractive to have someone pursue you mostly because of your money. OP, are you willing to date men who make less than you? Because if you're not, why should your ex?

+1

And there are so many men out there who think we're less than because we're women. This doesn't go down well with me.....ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s even easier to get rich by being an AH than it is by being a nice guy. A nice guy can get rich, but it’s much harder to thread that needle.

....and when you've thread the needle and done all the leg work to make him successful - he turns into an a$$ and thinks he's done it himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the nice ones got snapped up when they were still nobodies.

I married a nice no body. Then he started earning lots of money and, yes, I sae the change. He turned into a bit of an a$$. But then he lost his job and was nice again, so I see the correlation.

Yea, my exH was like that. All loving and caring when his company was in trouble; back to A..h when it recovered. Riding his horse high: he would even tell me “who who you think you are ??”

My DH just has this stance and 'I deserve it' attitude that drives me bananas. Luckily I've always made equal or more than him so I don't hesitate to take him down a peg when he's being too annoying.

[Anonymous]

Because all men are sinners. We are born sinners. Having money lets you get away with more because people want money to buy and do things. People overlook behavior to obtain money from someone else.

Look at how people treat each other on the internet.
It’s like that.