Husband has become mean

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Get a handle on your emotions and get in the kitchen and cook something healthy to eat rather than expecting takeout.

If you have gained more than 20lbs during pregnancy, then you are overeating anyway or eating too much junk.

You’re so incorrect. A healthy pregnancy weight gain for a single baby is 25-30lbs. Get educated before you spout lies.

25-35lbs and even up to 40 is normal for a healthy fit woman.

Overdoing it and coping there. Baby only weighs around 10lbs or less, plus say 5lbs in water/placenta gain. All the extra is just a symptom of overeating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Get a handle on your emotions and get in the kitchen and cook something healthy to eat rather than expecting takeout.

If you have gained more than 20lbs during pregnancy, then you are overeating anyway or eating too much junk.

You’re so incorrect. A healthy pregnancy weight gain for a single baby is 25-30lbs. Get educated before you spout lies.

25-35lbs and even up to 40 is normal for a healthy fit woman.

Overdoing it and coping there. Baby only weighs around 10lbs or less, plus say 5lbs in water/placenta gain. All the extra is just a symptom of overeating.

Maybe you could stop talking out of your @ss and look up medical guidelines. You are wrong: for a healthy weight person 25-35.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/pregnancy-weight-gain/art-20044360

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Is this your first kid with him?

Does he have an do other regular household activities?

If not, you are on a very slippery slope of realizing you married a ManChild who cannot or will not do anything much for the house, you or any child(ren).

You likely didn’t realize he was tagging along with you and your good habits, because you both had simple lives, no kids, and could take care of yourself and you could take care of him and his joint responsibilities.

Now you finally need him to grow up and step up and care for something other than himself and he’s failing. Failing to remember, failing to do, failing to make it right. Worse, he gets angry, blames you, and stonewalls.

ManChild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes! Your husband is over you & the pregnancy.

Too bad. I do a lot for him.

It’s really not even about the snacks and the food. It’s about respect. I bust my butt to make sure he has everything he needs - clean clothes for the week, pick up his dry cleaning, packed lunches, breakfast and coffee in the morning, dinner when he gets home, any special treat he asks me to make, comes home to a peaceful home ( peace is the most important thing to him). I make sure not to ask for too much or nag him. He gets a solid 30 minutes of peace when he comes home from work. He gets as much intimacy as he wants ( I make sure to never to never say no more than twice in a row). I’m very accommodating. He can deal with my emotions for the time being until I’m normal again.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couples therapy. It will get worse when you’re postpartum - many men really struggle being a supportive partner in pregnancy and postpartum.

You mean equal partner.

Supportive partner is for paid house workers and paid task rabbits.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Couples therapy. It will get worse when you’re postpartum - many men really struggle being a supportive partner in pregnancy and postpartum.

No, not couples therapy. Couples therapy should never be used when one party is being abusive. Instead, individual therapy for you. Pregnancy is when many men’s abusive behavior starts. They start testing boundaries - engaging small acts of disrespect or abuse. The point is to see how you react. Do you maintain the boundary or do you accept the boundary violation? This kind of abuse accomplishes two things: 1) it conditions you over time to self-censor, I.e. to do or not do things that will avoid his irritation and 2) once you are conditioned to avoid his irritation, you will stop asking him to do stuff with the baby. It will become easier for you to just do it yourself.

Individual therapy can help you communicate your needs in a productive manner, learn to regulate your emotions and to establish boundaries and react appropriately when they are violated.

It can also help you navigate this transition where you are establishing patterns of responsibility with respect to caring for the baby and household.

Hope you are not planning to SAHM. That would be extremely unwise given what your husband has revealed about himself through his behavior. You know what Toni Morrison says - “when someone shows you who they are, believe them.”

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Get a handle on your emotions and get in the kitchen and cook something healthy to eat rather than expecting takeout.

If you have gained more than 20lbs during pregnancy, then you are overeating anyway or eating too much junk.

Lol

“Gained more than 20 pounds during pregnancy.”

lol.

WTF are you talking about, a medium sized pregnant dog?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Get a handle on your emotions and get in the kitchen and cook something healthy to eat rather than expecting takeout.

If you have gained more than 20lbs during pregnancy, then you are overeating anyway or eating too much junk.

You’re so incorrect. A healthy pregnancy weight gain for a single baby is 25-30lbs. Get educated before you spout lies.

25-35lbs and even up to 40 is normal for a healthy fit woman.

Overdoing it and coping there. Baby only weighs around 10lbs or less, plus say 5lbs in water/placenta gain. All the extra is just a symptom of overeating.

Do better trolling than that. Pls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and hormonal and feel like I’ve been handling my emotions fairly well. My husband has been a dream for majority of my pregnancy but has lately been rude. He went to dinner with a friend last week and I asked him to please pick up some food at my favorite restaurant down the street. He came home with no food after “ forgetting”. I was starving by that point and very upset. A couple days after that he forgot to grab stuff from the same store he was at. Last night he went out again to run errands and forgot the snacks and other items I asked him to pick up for me. I was very mad and felt forgotten. He told me get over it and that he can’t wait for me to not be pregnant because I’ve been a real pita. I cried and now we aren’t speaking.

Get a handle on your emotions and get in the kitchen and cook something healthy to eat rather than expecting takeout.

If you have gained more than 20lbs during pregnancy, then you are overeating anyway or eating too much junk.

You’re so incorrect. A healthy pregnancy weight gain for a single baby is 25-30lbs. Get educated before you spout lies.

25-35lbs and even up to 40 is normal for a healthy fit woman.

Overdoing it and coping there. Baby only weighs around 10lbs or less, plus say 5lbs in water/placenta gain. All the extra is just a symptom of overeating.

Do better trolling than that. Pls.

+1 not a parent. Or a disordered one.

[Anonymous]

Do not have more kids w him

[Anonymous]

Took me ten years to ask my partner for as many things as you asked him within a week. You are annoying and he has ADHD.