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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Couples therapy. It will get worse when you’re postpartum - many men really struggle being a supportive partner in pregnancy and postpartum. [/quote]

No, not couples therapy. Couples therapy should never be used when one party is being abusive.  Instead, individual therapy for you. Pregnancy is when many men’s abusive behavior starts. They start testing boundaries - engaging small acts of disrespect or abuse. The point is to see how you react. Do you maintain the boundary or do you accept the boundary violation? This kind of abuse accomplishes two things: 1) it conditions you over time to self-censor, I.e. to do or not do things that will avoid his irritation and 2) once you are conditioned to avoid his irritation, you will stop asking him to do stuff with the baby.  It will become easier for you to just do it yourself.

Individual therapy can help you communicate your needs in a productive manner, learn to regulate your emotions and to establish boundaries and react appropriately when they are violated.

It can also help you navigate this transition where you are establishing patterns of responsibility with respect to caring for the baby and household.

Hope you are not planning to SAHM. That would be extremely unwise given what your husband has revealed about himself through his behavior. You know what Toni Morrison says - “when someone shows you who they are, believe them.”[/quote]

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