Disagreement over breast implants

[Anonymous]

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My wife got saline implants about 20ish years ago. I wasn’t really onboard with it because I was concerned about her health, but at the end of the day it was really important to her. If I’m being honest, they’re really nice. Like the worlds greatest t*ts! She uses them to manipulate me weekly. Its like “Oh, you don’t want to do something? How about NOW?” And I get boobs in my face. Works every time.

My high school gf would put boobs in my face to get something she wanted. This tactic only worked until I became a man and realized I will get them when I want them without jumping through hoops like a trained seal.

Its all in healthy, flirty fun.

[Anonymous]

You're 48. Get a good bra. Not worth messing with your overall health for this.

I sort of wish I'd gotten mine done at 35, but now I'm 53 and let's just say the importance of looking cute naked has gone down for me.

But glad I don't have another thing in my life to be worried about health-wise. Also, not a great example for my daughter. (My mom got implants when I was a teenager, and it was weird and made me judge her and my own situation differently - which is probably why I didn't do it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're 48. Get a good bra. Not worth messing with your overall health for this.

I sort of wish I'd gotten mine done at 35, but now I'm 53 and let's just say the importance of looking cute naked has gone down for me.

But glad I don't have another thing in my life to be worried about health-wise. Also, not a great example for my daughter. (My mom got implants when I was a teenager, and it was weird and made me judge her and my own situation differently - which is probably why I didn't do it.)

This is often underlooked as a side effect of these surgeries. We spend so much time teaching our children (daughters especially) that their worth is not in their looks and their body. That they don't need to alter their body to appeal to other people. So what kind of message does it send when they see their parents doing all sorts of different surgeries to alter themselves to make them more attractive to other people? It's totally backwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

[Anonymous]

Women with breast augmentations have a higher risk of suicide, cancer and general complications needing more surgery (and thus more risks). All because you wanted bigger boobs? Too many women afraid their husbands will leave them if their bodies don't "bounce back" so they go under the knife. So sad that we cant just encourage self esteem in grown women the way we do with children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

You really think kids are that dumb? C'mon now. They know when mommy gets surgery and can't lift anything for months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy because we know they make you sick. Best case they just cause inflammation throughout your body. Also, fake boobs look fake no matter where they are placed or how small they are. Team DH.

This. No fake boobs look real. And your body will treat them as the foreign substance they are. Gravity will continue to work, resulting in the need for additional surgeries to keep lifting/replacing.

Just love your damn body. Your spouse does. You can too. It's pathetic that women feel the need to cut themselves apart to "feel better". Feeling better is a choice you can make right now, with respect for the body you have.

You don't owe the world some kind of stupid beauty ideal.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

Err ok. Glad you like your fake boobs and congrats on running?? Not sure the point of this post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

Err ok. Glad you like your fake boobs and congrats on running?? Not sure the point of this post.

I don't have implants. The point is to call out people like you who make ridiculous unsupported claims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally would never do it. It’s a major surgery and they have to be redone every 10 years. I would be upset if my dh did an elective surgery and I had to pick up all the slack while he recovered.

I wonder if this is the root of his issue? She wont be able to do much of anything for a few months. But at least she'll have nice shiny new boobs!

[Anonymous]

They won't make your DH more desirous of you. And you'll have to be embarrassed about them if you get a new partner someday. Especially because you will eventually need to have them removed. So, you know, have fun.