Why do parents RSVP with more than the invited child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

Then you should only go to parties in Asia, Latin America or South Africa . Our values do not include party crashers, entitled and cheap people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

“When in Rome…”
When you are in Asia or LatAm or elsewhere, bring your whole family. That is not the cultural tradition here and it is rude to do so unless specifically invited to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

“When in Rome…”
When you are in Asia or LatAm or elsewhere, bring your whole family. That is not the cultural tradition here and it is rude to do so unless specifically invited to.

So are you basically agreeing that yes, North Americans are penny-pinching, less community-oriented, and suckers for RSVP lists? If so, great culture...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

Then you should only go to parties in Asia, Latin America or South Africa . Our values do not include party crashers, entitled and cheap people

Could be rewritten to "our values do not include welcoming anyone we consider 'other'".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

Some of us don't have homes (or back yards) that easily accommodate large groups. And park parties aren't a great option for winter birthdays. Some venues have limits on how many kids they can accommodate and/or have a high per kid cost. Expecting your whole family to be invited to an elementary kids birthday party is NOT reasonable. Should kids exclude their actual school friends so that parents and siblings they don't know can attend?

[Anonymous]

There are a million threads on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly speaks to the "hospitability" of North American culture.

In Asia, LATAM, or South Africa – the whole family would be invited.

Then again, part of this madness is because the insecure, penny-pinching middle class insists on Instagram-ready, high production value, pay-per-person parties.

No more cake, clown, confetti and streamers at home. Speaks to American values. And "culture".

Some of us don't have homes (or back yards) that easily accommodate large groups. And park parties aren't a great option for winter birthdays. Some venues have limits on how many kids they can accommodate and/or have a high per kid cost. Expecting your whole family to be invited to an elementary kids birthday party is NOT reasonable. Should kids exclude their actual school friends so that parents and siblings they don't know can attend?

No one is expecting an entire family to come to a child's birthday party. PP is clearly speaking in-cheek. Also, why would an entire family *want* to go to some random child's birthday party? The conversation is about how to minimize the feeling of exclusion if, say, for example, a family is raising children in this country for the first time, and one sibling is invited to the party. Said sibling has a brother/sister that is within 1-2 years age range. That is the topic of conversation. Not some absurd situation where you may be imagining 50 Latin Americans invading your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are either clueless or outwardly rude.

This. In some cultures everyone is welcome, especially Latino cultures.

Yes and when is Rome.....

We are in DC, they are in DC....they need to understand the culture in which they are living or be deemed as RUDE. They are rude for just expecting things to be the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are either clueless or outwardly rude.

This. In some cultures everyone is welcome, especially Latino cultures.

Yes and when is Rome.....

We are in DC, they are in DC....they need to understand the culture in which they are living or be deemed as RUDE. They are rude for just expecting things to be the same.

Just as Americans are equally rude when they go to Rome, and expect waitstaff to speak in English. This isn't an argument about cosmopolitanism or globality; it's about people being categorically uptight.

[Anonymous]

Because afaik stupid evite let's them and there's no way to disable that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I complained about this to a friend about a mutual acquaintance and she said the wife doesn't trust the husband to take care of the baby, but also she can't handle all the kids herself when SHE has the baby, so the entire family goes everywhere together. To me this is insane and proof you had too many kids.

And chose to reproduce with a disaster husband. Some people are so stupid!

[Anonymous]

Slightly adjacent to the topic, but I have a question: if you are living in Asia, LATAM, or South Africa, and your kid was invited to a kid's birthday party, would it be improper to drop them off and pick them up (let's assume they know how to be a proper and polite guest)?

Guess I'm asking if the reverse would be rude.

[Anonymous]

^^ I can speak only for Argentina/Brazil/Chile and South Africa – No. Though, just letting your kids out of the car and driving away would in fact be rude.

Parents typically linger and have a glass of wine, et cetera. Or come early before pick-up to do the same. There is an expectation that you greet the parents of the birthday child.

[Anonymous]

I am not fine dropping off my ES girl at a crowded D&B, zavazone, urban air, indoor playground, skyzone similar places. I follow DD every time she goes to bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not fine dropping off my ES girl at a crowded D&B, zavazone, urban air, indoor playground, skyzone similar places. I follow DD every time she goes to bathroom.

Me but I don't include myself in the rsvp. I'm like security. Security doesn't get counted for attendance purposes. I'm not eating a cupcake or taking a goody bag. I pay for my own ticket.