Why do parents RSVP with more than the invited child?

[Anonymous]

Kids are in elementary and can be dropped off. This one family always RSVPs with two kids and the entire family shows up to every single party. They are the only family who does this. The girl is the same grade as my daughter and I have seen them rsvp and come to every girl party with also the elementary aged boy.

Can’t they see this is a party for just the kids?

Most parents just leave or one parent hands around.

[Anonymous]

They are either clueless or outwardly rude.

[Anonymous]

-Cultural differences --I know a lot of families of totally different origins who do this for whatever reason.
-Cheap --they see it as a free meal for the family. They're fine with crappy pizza if they're not paying. I know more than one mom who admits to this! "Now I don't have to cook tonight."
If it's a party at my house I don't mind. If it's a pay-to-play place and I have to pay for extra kids it's frustrating. I posted before that i had a $400 party go up to $800 due to random siblings that I felt funny about not welcoming. For us that's a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

If you invite one person and they rsvp with 2- why don’t you call them and explain that only Larla was invited and siblings are not invited?

[Anonymous]

In many cultures, parties are for the whole families. But in the USA not so much, and i wouldn’t be happy if an opposite sex sibling kid my daughter didn’t know was added to the mix.

You could say that the activities are designed for girls of age X and that you think kid X won’t have much to do and suggest they take him elsewhere. But if they want to stay as a family and take responsibility of making sure he’s entertained, I wouldn’t say no. Some people don’t trust other families to take care of their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are either clueless or outwardly rude.

This. In some cultures everyone is welcome, especially Latino cultures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-Cultural differences --I know a lot of families of totally different origins who do this for whatever reason.
-Cheap --they see it as a free meal for the family. They're fine with crappy pizza if they're not paying. I know more than one mom who admits to this! "Now I don't have to cook tonight."
If it's a party at my house I don't mind. If it's a pay-to-play place and I have to pay for extra kids it's frustrating. I posted before that i had a $400 party go up to $800 due to random siblings that I felt funny about not welcoming. For us that's a lot of money.

I would have zero problem telling the non invited kids that sorry, you cannot accommodate them or tell the parents sorry if Danny wants to stay it's $50 per kid.

[Anonymous]

unless this triples the number of people you were expecting, how is this even worth thinking about?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you’re talking about one specific family. Most of us wouldn’t do this. Who knows? They probably don’t think they’re being rude.

[Anonymous]

I like it when a family stays. It's nice to have other adults there especially. The more the merrier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:-Cultural differences --I know a lot of families of totally different origins who do this for whatever reason.
-Cheap --they see it as a free meal for the family. They're fine with crappy pizza if they're not paying. I know more than one mom who admits to this! "Now I don't have to cook tonight."
If it's a party at my house I don't mind. If it's a pay-to-play place and I have to pay for extra kids it's frustrating. I posted before that i had a $400 party go up to $800 due to random siblings that I felt funny about not welcoming. For us that's a lot of money.

I would have zero problem telling the non invited kids that sorry, you cannot accommodate them or tell the parents sorry if Danny wants to stay it's $50 per kid.

I mean family walks in, kids start running around, parents are helping themselves to food.
Me: "Oh hi! I didnt realize you were going to bring X and Y along with Z. Did the front desk say anything because i only booked for 12 kids."
Mom: "They said it was fine. X and Y love it here so they'd be heartbroken if only Z got to play."
Plus all these people are of a different national origin from me.
You'd really have no problem saying that?

[Anonymous]

When you send the evite put in the message that it’s a drop off party.
In the email or text say “ this evite is for Larla, hope she can come”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like it when a family stays. It's nice to have other adults there especially. The more the merrier.

What?! No- this is the worst. I'm trying to entertain all of the 8 year olds and the parent wants to talk with me. I also really feel judged when adults just stand around watching me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are in elementary and can be dropped off. This one family always RSVPs with two kids and the entire family shows up to every single party. They are the only family who does this. The girl is the same grade as my daughter and I have seen them rsvp and come to every girl party with also the elementary aged boy.

Can’t they see this is a party for just the kids?

Most parents just leave or one parent hands around.

Free child care. Call them and tell them that only ONE child was invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids are in elementary and can be dropped off. This one family always RSVPs with two kids and the entire family shows up to every single party. They are the only family who does this. The girl is the same grade as my daughter and I have seen them rsvp and come to every girl party with also the elementary aged boy.

Can’t they see this is a party for just the kids?

Most parents just leave or one parent hands around.

Free child care. Call them and tell them that only ONE child was invited.

If you read the post she said that the mother and father both stick around as well. So she's supposed to kick out an entire family to their faces?