Do your kids live in the basement? My kids have windows in their rooms. So they can see the $hit I've thrown in there. |
You are doing it wrong then. Wash as you cook, then only takes about 2-5 min to wash all dishes for a family of four. |
Because they don't really do as advertised? You bought the sales pitch. ![]() |
Everyone should wash their own dishes if you trained them properly. Excluding guests of course. |
They just want to act like they have soooo much work to do between eating bon-bons and watching soap operas. ![]() |
Your handwashing isn't sterilizing $hit either. I don't need sterile dishes-this isn't a hospital. I'm good with clean without me having to wash them. |
Exactly, which is why a dishwasher is useless and for lazy people who want leaks and floods. |
Why are you valuing their labor over theirs? Also, they don’t like a clean house/environment because they’d make their bed before you got into their room. If not making the bed will be a source of stress for them, then they will learn to take 60 seconds from their day to accomplish this task. I am gently pushing back because I really hope you consider the value of this labor and what you’re expecting in return? Are you minimizing yourself? Are your favors going to cripple your children later when it comes to their partners? I want your kids to value you for more than doing tasks for them that they could easily do for themselves. I also really find it a stretch to believe they’ve told their roommates how to adult. It just doesn’t add up. |
pp to add I have young adult kids too, fwiw. |
I think that is all a very elaborate rationalization. The bottom line is that YOU need all these things to be done for a sense of peace in the house; it's YOUR mental health that deteriorates which in turn impacts your family. If it really is a source of stress for others in your family, then they should be able to figure out how to make their own bed and clean their own room. I understand, especially being a SAHM and feeling like I should everything because I'm home all day. But my kids need to learn how to clean and take care of things themselves for THEM. There's so much they don't realize you do. They take it all for granted because everything is always clean and in order but they don't think about how it actually gets that way. It's a disservice to kids for them to move out of the house without knowing how to mop the kitchen floor or that you need to clean the dishwasher filter once in a while. and how to do those things. |
I like your approach; but why do you need to take the curtains down to wash the windows? |
Mine works for me. |
I'm 57 years old. I have never had a leak or flood from a dishwasher. |
+1 If they can adult elsewhere, they can really adult by contributing to your household. That's called being part of the family. You don't have to make them do everything; but they should have some responsibility at home. Sounds like they are old enough to be responsible for their own bedrooms, then give them one household thing that's theirs. For example, my son is responsible for taking the trash bins to the curb each week and bringing them back in. He also helps with other things as asked; but the trash is his one chore that he's expected to do regularly. |
Ehh, if this makes me lazy, so be it. I have never had a single drop of water leak from a dishwasher. Perhaps don’t buy the cheap stuff |