DH is a womanizer

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been together for 11 years, married for 9. We have a 7 and 5 year old. A few years ago I found out DH was cheating. We tried therapy and to make work. In hindsight I realized DH has probably been cheating our whole relationship, I just never realized. It upsets me that DH is not faithful, but if I am completely honest I love him anyways. He is my best fried. Anyone stay happy with a cheating husband?

[Anonymous]

You certainly have good reasons to open up the marriage. He's not the only one who can have a little fun on the side.

[Anonymous]

Hello OP. You have been posting a lot about your situation. Are you the trauma bonding poster?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been together for 11 years, married for 9. We have a 7 and 5 year old. A few years ago I found out DH was cheating. We tried therapy and to make work. In hindsight I realized DH has probably been cheating our whole relationship, I just never realized. It upsets me that DH is not faithful, but if I am completely honest I love him anyways. He is my best fried. Anyone stay happy with a cheating husband?

Happy? Dealing with it? Lots of celebrities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello OP. You have been posting a lot about your situation. Are you the trauma bonding poster?

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been together for 11 years, married for 9. We have a 7 and 5 year old. A few years ago I found out DH was cheating. We tried therapy and to make work. In hindsight I realized DH has probably been cheating our whole relationship, I just never realized. It upsets me that DH is not faithful, but if I am completely honest I love him anyways. He is my best fried. Anyone stay happy with a cheating husband?

How can you love someone who finds you inferior and insufficient?! This is a form of self-hate.

[Anonymous]

Dear Super Obvious Troll,

This is just boring, unimaginative and silly. Pls work harder on your fake posts or don’t bother.

Xoxo

[Anonymous]

If DH is your best friend it’s OK. Beyoncé did it. Why do you think you are better than Queen B? Or Melania?

[Anonymous]

I think life and people are complicated. Love is powerful. It's trendy to pretend like life is neat and simple, it's not. Women of past generations loved husbands who had whole other secret families. It's not right, but just how it is sometimes. Looking for perfection will leave you alone. Some people are ok with that, but a lot are not, so they deal with it. There is an intimacy in marriage that is not easily replicable.

[Anonymous]

My friend has stayed with her cheating husband. She's known he's cheated on her since they were dating, even the early stages. Now they have 2 young kids and he provides a lifestyle she wouldn't be able to have on her own. Her self esteem has also taken a major hit. But, they do love each other and they do have a good time together. She's somehow managed to just accept it and pretend it doesn't happen anymore. I still think it'll blow up at some point, but no one would ever guess that this is what their marriage is actually like. They look happy together, affectionate, every bit like a typical loving couple.

[Anonymous]

It’s not about you wanting to stay with him. He could leave you at any moment for a younger, hotter woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend has stayed with her cheating husband. She's known he's cheated on her since they were dating, even the early stages. Now they have 2 young kids and he provides a lifestyle she wouldn't be able to have on her own. Her self esteem has also taken a major hit. But, they do love each other and they do have a good time together. She's somehow managed to just accept it and pretend it doesn't happen anymore. I still think it'll blow up at some point, but no one would ever guess that this is what their marriage is actually like. They look happy together, affectionate, every bit like a typical loving couple.

Curious, what makes you say he loves her?

[Anonymous]

Some people do this for decades. Frida Kahlo & Diego Rivera for example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has stayed with her cheating husband. She's known he's cheated on her since they were dating, even the early stages. Now they have 2 young kids and he provides a lifestyle she wouldn't be able to have on her own. Her self esteem has also taken a major hit. But, they do love each other and they do have a good time together. She's somehow managed to just accept it and pretend it doesn't happen anymore. I still think it'll blow up at some point, but no one would ever guess that this is what their marriage is actually like. They look happy together, affectionate, every bit like a typical loving couple.

Curious, what makes you say he loves her?

I spend enough time with them to see it. You can see his love for her in how he talks to her and does things with her and looks at her. It's like a true Jekyll and Hyde situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend has stayed with her cheating husband. She's known he's cheated on her since they were dating, even the early stages. Now they have 2 young kids and he provides a lifestyle she wouldn't be able to have on her own. Her self esteem has also taken a major hit. But, they do love each other and they do have a good time together. She's somehow managed to just accept it and pretend it doesn't happen anymore. I still think it'll blow up at some point, but no one would ever guess that this is what their marriage is actually like. They look happy together, affectionate, every bit like a typical loving couple.

What about the risk of STDs?