Question for middle-age women with husbands who are not physical?

[Anonymous]

My DH always had low drive. Sometimes he takes testerone. We had swx once last year, initiated by me.
Low T, middle age, job stress, anti depressants and just generally insecure is a tough hill to climb.

I’m in menopause now so my drive is dropped. Would never be dumb enough to leave marriage over this. Great dad, financial secure and we get along great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could they have low testosterone?

It’s possible. But put them in a bedroom with Adriana Lima or Margot Robbie, and you’ll find out that low testosterone isn’t a problem.

Low testosterone is a hormonal problem. Beauty doesn't solve it. You have to change your lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Low testosterone is a thing for sure but generally not the main reason. A low testosterone man needs more stimulation to get going. His partner of 20+ is no longer attractive enough to provide that stimulation. A hot and sexy woman is able to provide it.

I have seen it numerous times. The woman complains that her man no longer has sex with her and suspects low libido. Meanwhile, we later discover that the man was out there cheating and ban*ing young hot chicks.

It happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH always had low drive. Sometimes he takes testerone. We had swx once last year, initiated by me.
Low T, middle age, job stress, anti depressants and just generally insecure is a tough hill to climb.

I’m in menopause now so my drive is dropped. Would never be dumb enough to leave marriage over this. Great dad, financial secure and we get along great.

Be careful. He is getting it somewhere else. Probably with a younger and hotter woman. 8 out of 10 times this is what we find.

[Anonymous]

Prior poster may be on to something. As a single guy in mid 50s, I dated a lot. I had no serious performance issues with women 10 or 15 or 20 years younger. With a couple of women my own age or older, I had trouble finishing a bunch of times, though I could at least start. Now I'm in a relationship with a woman more than 10 years younger and I can perform on command, sometimes twice in a day.

This phenomenon also happens to women. I'm divorced. My ex wife lost all attraction to me a long time ago. Now she seems very sexual with her new guy. It's obvious from the way they interact with each other and she's dropped some hints.

[Anonymous]

I meant two posts ago not one post ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could they have low testosterone?

It’s possible. But put them in a bedroom with Adriana Lima or Margot Robbie, and you’ll find out that low testosterone isn’t a problem.

Low testosterone is a hormonal problem. Beauty doesn't solve it. You have to change your lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Low testosterone is a thing for sure but generally not the main reason. A low testosterone man needs more stimulation to get going. His partner of 20+ is no longer attractive enough to provide that stimulation. A hot and sexy woman is able to provide it.

I have seen it numerous times. The woman complains that her man no longer has sex with her and suspects low libido. Meanwhile, we later discover that the man was out there cheating and ban*ing young hot chicks.

It happens all the time.

Yeah, you’ve not actually seen this numerous times. You just watch too much porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s often because the wife is no longer desirable or the sex has become a monotonous routine. You put that guy in front of a sexy hot young woman and he will go on her like crazy.

It’s very hard for many men to have sex with the same woman for years and still find excitement. Not impossible, but very difficult. New things are always very exciting.

The data does not bear this out. Women tire of the same partner sooner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could they have low testosterone?

It’s possible. But put them in a bedroom with Adriana Lima or Margot Robbie, and you’ll find out that low testosterone isn’t a problem.

Low testosterone is a hormonal problem. Beauty doesn't solve it. You have to change your lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Low testosterone is a thing for sure but generally not the main reason. A low testosterone man needs more stimulation to get going. His partner of 20+ is no longer attractive enough to provide that stimulation. A hot and sexy woman is able to provide it.

I have seen it numerous times. The woman complains that her man no longer has sex with her and suspects low libido. Meanwhile, we later discover that the man was out there cheating and ban*ing young hot chicks.

It happens all the time.

That’s just variety. It’s why supermodels and hot housewives get cheated on. The wife can be hotter than the woman he bangs but since the OW is “new”, it’s exciting. I’ve seen so many men bang uglier women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could they have low testosterone?

It’s possible. But put them in a bedroom with Adriana Lima or Margot Robbie, and you’ll find out that low testosterone isn’t a problem.

Low testosterone is a hormonal problem. Beauty doesn't solve it. You have to change your lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Low testosterone is a thing for sure but generally not the main reason. A low testosterone man needs more stimulation to get going. His partner of 20+ is no longer attractive enough to provide that stimulation. A hot and sexy woman is able to provide it.

I have seen it numerous times. The woman complains that her man no longer has sex with her and suspects low libido. Meanwhile, we later discover that the man was out there cheating and ban*ing young hot chicks.

It happens all the time.

That’s just variety. It’s why supermodels and hot housewives get cheated on. The wife can be hotter than the woman he bangs but since the OW is “new”, it’s exciting. I’ve seen so many men bang uglier women.

Totally new relationship energy. Someone you have been with for 10-15 years and seen them at their worst vs a brand new different person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could they have low testosterone?

It’s possible. But put them in a bedroom with Adriana Lima or Margot Robbie, and you’ll find out that low testosterone isn’t a problem.

Low testosterone is a hormonal problem. Beauty doesn't solve it. You have to change your lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Low testosterone is a thing for sure but generally not the main reason. A low testosterone man needs more stimulation to get going. His partner of 20+ is no longer attractive enough to provide that stimulation. A hot and sexy woman is able to provide it.

I have seen it numerous times. The woman complains that her man no longer has sex with her and suspects low libido. Meanwhile, we later discover that the man was out there cheating and ban*ing young hot chicks.

It happens all the time.

That’s just variety. It’s why supermodels and hot housewives get cheated on. The wife can be hotter than the woman he bangs but since the OW is “new”, it’s exciting. I’ve seen so many men bang uglier women.

Totally new relationship energy. Someone you have been with for 10-15 years and seen them at their worst vs a brand new different person.

Yeah- it’s not fkg rocket science. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH always had low drive. Sometimes he takes testerone. We had swx once last year, initiated by me.
Low T, middle age, job stress, anti depressants and just generally insecure is a tough hill to climb.

I’m in menopause now so my drive is dropped. Would never be dumb enough to leave marriage over this. Great dad, financial secure and we get along great.

This is us also. He was always low drive, deeply insecure and unwilling to take testosterone or put in any real effort. Plus he's gained about 40 pounds since we got married (on a 5'9" frame). He's a good man, who I deeply trust and whose company I enjoy. We are parents so would never leave him until they're in their 20's, by which time I'll be in my 60's.

It sucks. I'm resigned to it.