Question for middle-age women with husbands who are not physical?

[Anonymous]

How common is for middle-age women to be reasonably happily married to a man who is not "physical" (and where there is no longer a particularly fantastic emotional fulfillment either) and where the dynamics is mainly that of best friends? Is it because the man is financially stable, a good father, an overall decent person? Is it mainly due to mutual respect, common history, and common goals especially involving kids?

[Anonymous]

Rare

In almost all cases it is the female that gains weight and stops wanting sex.

Then the relationship goes downhill

We see this in all races.

[Anonymous]

It’s not uncommon. It’s difficult to talk about and folks tend to think they’re the only one going through it. You’re not. I don’t have answers and perimenopause has not dampened my desire. His lack of interest has really messed up my self esteem though! Working on that. I miss physical intimacy desperately. I get affection but no passion. We’re 50 and it’s been a problem for a decade.

[Anonymous]

Always MONEY why women stay in less than ideal situations ..

[Anonymous]

It’s often because the wife is no longer desirable or the sex has become a monotonous routine. You put that guy in front of a sexy hot young woman and he will go on her like crazy.

It’s very hard for many men to have sex with the same woman for years and still find excitement. Not impossible, but very difficult. New things are always very exciting.

[Anonymous]

If you mean “sexless” by “not physical“ … then yes, you can still have a great marriage. I do. DH has zero interest, and hasn’t had any interest for years. It’s fine if everything else is great. If everything else were not great, then there’d be a big problem. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

If you are fat and your spouse is height/weight proportionate, then you are the likely cause for them to be non-physical

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are fat and your spouse is height/weight proportionate, then you are the likely cause for them to be non-physical

If you are a horrible, nasty person (like ^^), then you are likely the cause ...

[Anonymous]

Not right to be platonic in marriage unless due to a medical condition preventing anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you mean “sexless” by “not physical“ … then yes, you can still have a great marriage. I do. DH has zero interest, and hasn’t had any interest for years. It’s fine if everything else is great. If everything else were not great, then there’d be a big problem. YMMV.

Do either of you still any related needs? Or just no interest in each other?

[Anonymous]

This is common. As people age, they generally have sex less often than when they were young until it eventually dwindles to hardly ever.

But, maybe they exchange a kiss or a pat or a hug or cuddle. In other words, no sex is not marriage ending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Always MONEY why women stay in less than ideal situations ..

No it's always because they think they don't have any better options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Always MONEY why ANYONE stays in less than ideal situations ..

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How common is for middle-age women to be reasonably happily married to a man who is not "physical" (and where there is no longer a particularly fantastic emotional fulfillment either) and where the dynamics is mainly that of best friends? Is it because the man is financially stable, a good father, an overall decent person? Is it mainly due to mutual respect, common history, and common goals especially involving kids?

Very common though most won't admit it. Marriage is more than just about humping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How common is for middle-age women to be reasonably happily married to a man who is not "physical" (and where there is no longer a particularly fantastic emotional fulfillment either) and where the dynamics is mainly that of best friends? Is it because the man is financially stable, a good father, an overall decent person? Is it mainly due to mutual respect, common history, and common goals especially involving kids?

I mean, most middle age men are fat. They're not working out. So, pretty common.