Help with Parenting adult children

[Anonymous]

This is thrill (dopamine) seeking behavior. Agree about mental health eval. I bet substance abuse is present, too.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you have a risk taking problem, I think you have a problem where your child is an ahole.

An adult child who likes taking risks in the outdoors but isn’t an ahole does a few things:

1) within reason, will politely listen to a parent’s safety lecture even if they don’t take the advice.

2) doesn’t complain about limits on family vacations they’re not paying for. They might decide to spend less PTO on those family vacations, and that’s perfectly valid. If they want to go backcountry skiing and you disapprove, they do it on their own time/nickel.

Your toxic personal relationship is a way more urgent problem than the risk of avalanche. Your kid is an ahole, and you enable it/seem to think it’s fine. Everyone needs to get their boundaries straight and start acting like adults.