I don't think anyone cares very deeply about potentially running into someone at a conference years later. And if that person did carry a grudge for that long and remembers this clearly, it's a little odd! Anyone who has been looking for a job lately knows that ghosting is rampant, and yes, can happen after interviews. As someone else mentioned as well, you also never know if something happened to the person in their actual, real life, such as an illness or family issue. |
Disagree. If a candidate took the time to apply to a specific job, he is effectively asking a question ("are you interested in hiring me, given my experience and qualifications?"). That candidate is owed some sort of response. A rejection form letter or a job offer (after an interview, references, etc.) would be the expected responses. I don't necessary feel this way for a random resume that was submitted outside of the context of applying for a specific job, however. I am not excusing the candidate here, but I am annoyed by OP's hypocrisy in expecting candidates to respond to prospective employers, but not the other way around. |
OP isn't talking about people she's cold calling to see if they want a job. She's talking about people where there's been enough back and forth that an offer has been made. Basic social skills dictate that you acknowledge each other at the decision point, in that situation. I think a lot of people saying this is fine don't understand that the world is based on relationships. You might not want this job today but you might be job hunting again in a year, or five years - and don't you think that being able to reach back out to someone like OP at that point, having left things in a friendly way, would be better than just burning that bridge? Think beyond today. That is my best piece of advice, as an old person. |
Goes both ways. Sorry we are all here, as both HM and applicant. |
I have 20 years of experience and this situation never happened to me or my friends. |
What situation has never happened to you? |
+1. Over 25 years of experience. We aren't the middle of nowhere and for someone to remember someone who, years back, ghosted them, is a bit odd (as someone else previously noted). |
Why? An offer is no more than an application to the employee. |
OP here. I agree. And have been through this personally. I interviewed for a job at my current company when I was in my 20s, the timing wasn't right for both of us, we left things on good terms. 8 years later, a more senior role opened up and they reached out and 9 years later, I'm still here. Maybe it's industry specific, but in our industry after 20+ years, I've worked with so many people, that I am friendly with leadership at most companies in our industry in our city. I can and will, call them up to get their take on a candidate that they've overlapped with (not if they are working together currently of course). They do the same with me. Everyone is only separated by a couple degrees at most. It's a bad look to do what this person is doing. |
I am not young and I have always been treated this way too. That’s not the standard? 😂 |
Why, because you are on the receiving end of the ghosting this time? There's more to consider when you think about why you may have been ghosted. Did you respond immediately upon receipt of this person's application informing them about the timeline and process for selecting interviewees? How long did it take you to get back to this person with feedback about the interview and more information about timeline and process expectations? How long from interview to offering a job? Did you offer the job verbally, and if so how quickly did you follow up with written information like a contract or letter of employment and concrete information about benefits that you offer with the job? Is your salary offer reasonable or are you low-balling? |
Candidates are now treating employers the way most employers treat candidates. |
OP here. We have been very responsive and provided lots of updates. She was scheduled for an interview almost immediately. She was one of our first interviews, so we shared with her that it would be a few weeks to get through interviews and then she's been updated weekly since. It was about 4 weeks from the first interview to job offer. I responded within 24 hours of her questions (EVEN when it took her a week+ to respond to me). Salary is what she asked for. |
You are dreaming. When your small business receives 300+ applications through Indeed, and 85% don't meet the requirements in your job posting, and clearly haven't even read your job posting but just clicked "submit," we are not responding to each |
They got a better offer and forgot or missed your email because it was no longer relevant to them. I’m sure if you worked at a top 5 company that they deal with they would have been on top of it. |