DD chooses weird gifts for her friends ... venting here because I know I should say nothing

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Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

I wouldn’t want my kid to be friends with yours and would actively discourage the friendship just because you suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority here but I don't understand the need to be so hands off. I would buy something a little nicer that is a thoughtful gift for the recipient, and throw in the stuff my DD picked out with it.

Idk I think we should be teaching our kids how to give quality, thoughtful presents to others. It's a life skill.

Personally, as much as I hate that crap, I think it’s more important to let them do their thing. If they spend time at lunch in the cafeteria debating which candy is best, buying a bunch of sugar garbage at Five Below IS their version of thoughtful.

Let it go and stop trying to control for fear of being judged.

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It would never occur to me as a parent to be judgmental about what one child picked out as a gift for another child. Seems like a weird thing to get worked up about.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

You are the worst. I think that at 12 years old, kids should be picking out their own presents for their friends. If this is what they pick out, then at least they picked it out and put a little thought into it instead of mom ordering some random art kit off of Amazon for a child she's met twice.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

All I get out of your posts is that you are incredibly controlling and I'm sure your child was devastated that you didn't let her have any of that "crap" and took it away immediately. Because we all know that's exactly what you did. You definitely didn't take her to DQ to buy a blizzard, did you?

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Oh man, I *wish* DD’s friends would get her candy and plastic junk I can sneak into the trash.

But no, the trend among her classmates is grandma blankets. Everyone gives grandma blankets for birthdays. I don’t know what worse, the fact that here in 2 months I’m going to have another 12 blankets added to my living room blankets collection, or that when we go to a birthday party with a wrapped blanket, I see they already have a massive pile of living room blankets.

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My 11 year old has been giving gifts like this for a couple years and so have her friends. Nobody’s parents care from what I can tell. She usually picks out a little basket to put them in. I let her pick out what she wants , I don’t know what her friends like.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

All I get out of your posts is that you are incredibly controlling and I'm sure your child was devastated that you didn't let her have any of that "crap" and took it away immediately. Because we all know that's exactly what you did. You definitely didn't take her to DQ to buy a blizzard, did you?

lol. Devastated?! No, my kid was confused as to why she received a bunch of snacks that she doesn’t like as a birthday gift. I’m sorry that offends you. It was obvious there was little thought put into the gift and Mom just grabbed junk in a rush at CVS.

My advice is to not let your daughter gift crap to another girl.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

You sound like a miserable person to be around.

Because my daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetha or DQ? You’re an idiot. Stopping at CVS on the way to a party and gifting snacks is not thoughtful or appropriate.

Says the person using gift as a verb.

I can’t tell if you’re joking or just dumb as rocks. Try using a dictionary. Gift can absolutely be used a verb. LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

All I get out of your posts is that you are incredibly controlling and I'm sure your child was devastated that you didn't let her have any of that "crap" and took it away immediately. Because we all know that's exactly what you did. You definitely didn't take her to DQ to buy a blizzard, did you?

lol. Devastated?! No, my kid was confused as to why she received a bunch of snacks that she doesn’t like as a birthday gift. I’m sorry that offends you. It was obvious there was little thought put into the gift and Mom just grabbed junk in a rush at CVS.

My advice is to not let your daughter gift crap to another girl.

I pay no attention to what my almost 13 year old picks out for gifts for her friends. She knows them better than I do. I merely pay. Why would I be selecting a gift for a 12/13 year I don’t know?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember when my daughter got a bunch of junk from a friend - ugh! It looked like they had stopped at CVS on the way to the party. It was full size candy bars, hot Cheetos and a $5 gift card to Dairy Queen. Totally thoughtless and stupid. Hated the jumble of crap. I was pretty shocked a parent would allow it.

My DD would be ever excited for a full size candy bar and a gift card for snacks.

Also, when I was a kid I didn’t have pocket money and my mom wouldn’t let me give presents if it wasn’t a “real” birthday party. I would have to scrounge gifts and yes, sometimes it would be a jumble that was like what you listed above.

Honestly, snacks are better than plastic crap. Hot Cheetos and a Dairy Queen gift card are the 12 year old equivalent of a bottle of wine and a pint of ice cream.

Not just any wine, a thoughtfully-selected personal recommendation from the gift-giver.

I’m the PP. My daughter doesn’t like hot Cheetohs and has never been to DQ. Gift was not personal or good. Literally last minute crap. Parenting fail and laziness.

All I get out of your posts is that you are incredibly controlling and I'm sure your child was devastated that you didn't let her have any of that "crap" and took it away immediately. Because we all know that's exactly what you did. You definitely didn't take her to DQ to buy a blizzard, did you?

lol. Devastated?! No, my kid was confused as to why she received a bunch of snacks that she doesn’t like as a birthday gift. I’m sorry that offends you. It was obvious there was little thought put into the gift and Mom just grabbed junk in a rush at CVS.

My advice is to not let your daughter gift crap to another girl.

LOL, you don't know your child at all. Guess what? She eats all the candy and Cheetos when she's at her friends' house. Her friends' moms know you don't allow it and they feel bad for her, so they give her crap when she visits. I'm sorry you're so clueless about your own child.

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lol. Devastated?! No, my kid was confused as to why she received a bunch of snacks that she doesn’t like as a birthday gift. I’m sorry that offends you. It was obvious there was little thought put into the gift and Mom just grabbed junk in a rush at CVS.

My advice is to not let your daughter gift crap to another girl.

Um, her friends gave her those gifts because that's what her friend group likes. "Mom" wasn't involved at all in the selection of those gifts. What parents get involved in the selection of gifts after grade school?

OP - your daughter is doing just fine. When I read your original post I didn't think anything she selected was weird - it's pretty typical middle school stuff.