Are all football coaches control freaks?

[Anonymous]

OP again, I hear you all, but disagree. As far as injury is concerned, that is one reason I don't want him in the sport, so in the back of my mind that is playing a part. You can practice all you want, but in a contact sport, anything can happen. BTW, there are two boys on the team that are giving it their all (or their parents' all), and seem really frazzled, I am not sure what they are learning, maybe if something does not feel right, then don't do it.
BTW, my son is no slacker, he is polite and fun to be around. He does not "party" all the time, does not drink or use drugs, sleeps his 9-10 hours a day (I applaud that), very good grades, and tuition at UMD is paid for, so no need for sports scholarships.

[Anonymous]

Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

There is something very peculiar about this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

There is something very peculiar about this thread.

The thread should have been titled: "How Can I Get My Son to Stop Playing Football Without Being Obvious About It?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

It said tuition paid for, not accepted. If you do prepaid tuition, which you should, you can at least plan on affording the school that you have paid for. Any kid with good grades in MD will get in eventually, maybe it will have to be after a year or two at community college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

It said tuition paid for, not accepted. If you do prepaid tuition, which you should, you can at least plan on affording the school that you have paid for. Any kid with good grades in MD will get in eventually, maybe it will have to be after a year or two at community college.

well, tuition paid for and getting admitted are two completely different things. Don't see what playing football has to do with it one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This might also apply to other coaches too.
If a kid misses a few practices in the summer because he had a party, or a family get together, or a vacation, or over slept please tell me why that is a big deal?
To me, ages 14-18 are the years that nothing other than academics and family should matter that much. As a matter of fact, I feel that the social life matters more than sports! Also, you should be able to miss practices and still play on the D--- team!
Since when did life get so ridiculously serious at this age?
Please someone bring back the 70's. Never thought I would write that.

It sounds like the coach is benching him or not giving game time based on skill level. Games are now being played and the OP might be dealing with a discontented kid who sits on the bench. A DS who prioritizes social life over preparing for this season. Of course the OP's son with the very important social life doesn't party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

It said tuition paid for, not accepted. If you do prepaid tuition, which you should, you can at least plan on affording the school that you have paid for. Any kid with good grades in MD will get in eventually, maybe it will have to be after a year or two at community college.

well, tuition paid for and getting admitted are two completely different things. Don't see what playing football has to do with it one way or the other.

Actually, playing football might hurt admissions if the time spent at games and practices cuts into study time. Unless he plans to play college ball, it is best to stick to academics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having read the thread, it has nothing at all to do with coaches who are control freaks.
It is about a mom who doesn't want her son to play football. Fair enough. But who is the control freak?
Left out of the discussion is what does the young man say about this? What does he think of his mom pulling him off the team because her agenda, not his?
From what I read, he wasn't really a slacker, but now he is a quitter. Some really great life-lessons being taught here.

Also, OP could you explain how someone is guaranteed admission to UMd at age 15? Didn't think thata was possible

It said tuition paid for, not accepted. If you do prepaid tuition, which you should, you can at least plan on affording the school that you have paid for. Any kid with good grades in MD will get in eventually, maybe it will have to be after a year or two at community college.

well, tuition paid for and getting admitted are two completely different things. Don't see what playing football has to do with it one way or the other.

Actually, playing football might hurt admissions if the time spent at games and practices cuts into study time. Unless he plans to play college ball, it is best to stick to academics.

So it's a given that extra-curricular ctivities hurt academics? I wasn't aware of that and it has not been my experience. I wrestled, made it to every practice for three years in high school, and we had inter-scholastic matches at least one night a week during the season (on week nights). My kid is in Tae Kwon Do two nights a week, and swimming one night a week. Playing sports didn't affect my grades one iota, and my kid is in GT program and it doesn't affect his grades. This attempted linkage between playing football and hurting one's academics is just B.S. In fact, the whole thread is B.S. OP is looking for excuses to prevent her kid from playing football. That's been crystal clear from the first post.

[Anonymous]

Being on a sports team in HS usually helps college admissions, not hurt. Neighbor kid got into one of the Ivies largely on strength of being on varsity crew. That is hard, demading work. Colleges these days look favorably on participation in sportss, esp. team sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being on a sports team in HS usually helps college admissions, not hurt. Neighbor kid got into one of the Ivies largely on strength of being on varsity crew. That is hard, demading work. Colleges these days look favorably on participation in sportss, esp. team sports.

If the kid does well in the sport, then fine, but for the other slackers, they should have just hit the books. Any extra curric. helps, it does not have to be sports.

[Anonymous]

What does pre-paid tuition have to do with your argument?

Anonymous wrote:OP again, I hear you all, but disagree. As far as injury is concerned, that is one reason I don't want him in the sport, so in the back of my mind that is playing a part. You can practice all you want, but in a contact sport, anything can happen. BTW, there are two boys on the team that are giving it their all (or their parents' all), and seem really frazzled, I am not sure what they are learning, maybe if something does not feel right, then don't do it.
BTW, my son is no slacker, he is polite and fun to be around. He does not "party" all the time, does not drink or use drugs, sleeps his 9-10 hours a day (I applaud that), very good grades, and tuition at UMD is paid for, so no need for sports scholarships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does pre-paid tuition have to do with your argument?

Anonymous wrote:OP again, I hear you all, but disagree. As far as injury is concerned, that is one reason I don't want him in the sport, so in the back of my mind that is playing a part. You can practice all you want, but in a contact sport, anything can happen. BTW, there are two boys on the team that are giving it their all (or their parents' all), and seem really frazzled, I am not sure what they are learning, maybe if something does not feel right, then don't do it.
BTW, my son is no slacker, he is polite and fun to be around. He does not "party" all the time, does not drink or use drugs, sleeps his 9-10 hours a day (I applaud that), very good grades, and tuition at UMD is paid for, so no need for sports scholarships.

Can't you guys move on to something else and leave this woman and her son alone. She came to this site looking for some general advise and she's been ripped to shreds. She has tried to explain her position several times already. There is no need to parse out every syllable and word she has said. Everyone knows that coaches work very hard and that team spirit is important, and that being a teenager is a learning experience. Come on guys -- let this one go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, playing football might hurt admissions if the time spent at games and practices cuts into study time. Unless he plans to play college ball, it is best to stick to academics.

Depends. If A's turn into B's, B's into C's, etc., due to the time spent playing ... I suspect someone with a 3.9 and no football will get a better look than someone with a 3.2 and football.

[Anonymous]

I said this earlier in the thread, however, it bears repeating. Studies have proven that those kids that are involved with athletics have better grades than kids who do not participate. Those kids that go home after school and have hours on end of free time are much more likely to waste it than those who have to learn to manage their time. The old saying is true, the busier you are, the more you get done!