Daughter assaulted at school

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised the teachers are egging OP on. It makes me wonder if OP is sock puppeting. The fact is we have no idea how the original incident went down and even less what the punishment was. It would be a horrific breach of privacy for the teacher to have informed the OP, which means OP is going on the word of her fifth grade daughter.

I am actually all for serious punishments but a kid throwing a pencil which sounds like it didn't do any harm (or did I miss that post?) is small potatoes compared to the cyber bullying and meanness that goes on starting... right around fifth grade. I have two in college, two in high school and am shocked at how hands off parents are with phones and social media.

It's not a competition. Throwing things is bad, cyber bullying is bad.- A teacher who posted upthread.

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I do not support the “boys will be boys” mentality, but it really depends on what “threw a pencil at her eye” means. Like - threw a pencil in frustration in her general direction and it went near her eye. That deserves someone talking to the kid about what could have happened and how he needs to control his emotions, along with some sort of punishment.

Throwing a sharp pencil in close range, aiming for her eye, and only missing because she blocked him with significant effort. That falls into the suspension, keep the kids separate box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not support the “boys will be boys” mentality, but it really depends on what “threw a pencil at her eye” means. Like - threw a pencil in frustration in her general direction and it went near her eye. That deserves someone talking to the kid about what could have happened and how he needs to control his emotions, along with some sort of punishment.

Throwing a sharp pencil in close range, aiming for her eye, and only missing because she blocked him with significant effort. That falls into the suspension, keep the kids separate box.

If the school made him do community service it was likely not just a gentle toss

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Anonymous wrote:A boy was wildly swinging something around and hit my daughter in the face and busted her lip and nothing happened to him. What exactly are you expecting here? You didn't mention an injury.

That sounds like an accident. When my DD was in middle school her friend accidentally whipped his locker into her face and gave her a black eye. We got a call home. I met her at the train station and we talked about if he was angry, if she felt it was on purpose, how he reacted after it happened, etc. She assured me it was truly an accident, that the boy apologized on the spot and walked her to get ice, and felt very bad. They continued being friends for years. Accidents happen.

He wasn't wildly swinging it around by accident. It was a very deliberate act and then she walked up at the wrong time. That was an 'accident' waiting to happen but still, no great punishment and we didn't really expect one.

I'm confused, OP. Did he purposefully throw it AT HER EYE or did he throw it and she happened to walk by and hit her near her eye? Two very different things, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:A boy was wildly swinging something around and hit my daughter in the face and busted her lip and nothing happened to him. What exactly are you expecting here? You didn't mention an injury.

That sounds like an accident. When my DD was in middle school her friend accidentally whipped his locker into her face and gave her a black eye. We got a call home. I met her at the train station and we talked about if he was angry, if she felt it was on purpose, how he reacted after it happened, etc. She assured me it was truly an accident, that the boy apologized on the spot and walked her to get ice, and felt very bad. They continued being friends for years. Accidents happen.

He wasn't wildly swinging it around by accident. It was a very deliberate act and then she walked up at the wrong time. That was an 'accident' waiting to happen but still, no great punishment and we didn't really expect one.

I'm confused, OP. Did he purposefully throw it AT HER EYE or did he throw it and she happened to walk by and hit her near her eye? Two very different things, OP.

That's a different poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not support the “boys will be boys” mentality, but it really depends on what “threw a pencil at her eye” means. Like - threw a pencil in frustration in her general direction and it went near her eye. That deserves someone talking to the kid about what could have happened and how he needs to control his emotions, along with some sort of punishment.

Throwing a sharp pencil in close range, aiming for her eye, and only missing because she blocked him with significant effort. That falls into the suspension, keep the kids separate box.

No? There’s no special category of throwing things at classmates that is OK if it’s “in frustration”.

Sounds like you do a really support a boys will be boys mentality if you really think a talking to about controlling our big feelings is what needs to happen outside a PreK setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who is absolutely sick of this sh!t here’s what I would do depending on your daughter’s preference. Email the principal and ask for a change of class placement or a safety plan for your daughter. If the response is not sufficient email risk management, school board members and superintendent. If the kid physically touches or throws something at your daughter again call the cops.

Do the cops really come if you call them because a 5th grader threw a pencil in the classroom? What do they do? A stern talking to? An arrest?

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who is absolutely sick of this sh!t here’s what I would do depending on your daughter’s preference. Email the principal and ask for a change of class placement or a safety plan for your daughter. If the response is not sufficient email risk management, school board members and superintendent. If the kid physically touches or throws something at your daughter again call the cops.

Do the cops really come if you call them because a 5th grader threw a pencil in the classroom? What do they do? A stern talking to? An arrest?

We called the police because somebody let their SN kid lose in McDonald's and the kid bit three kids in the span of 60 seconds hard enough to leave marks. We called the nonemergency number. Cops came and took a report, looked at the bruises. They filed something that is a step below a criminal record because of the age of the child. I think we did the kid a favor because it lights a fire under the parent's a-- to actually do something and I imagine if they were fighting for more resources like a 1:1 in school that would be more ammunition for the parents to fight for more services. I would imagine the parents would be more likely to be "elbow to elbow" with their biter in the future. It is against child protection laws where I live to allow one child to abuse another.

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Anonymous wrote:Name the school. No public or private school I know allows sharing of food as allergies are prevalent. Name the school or i didn’ happen.

My child’s school is not allowed to bring candy. We are told no candy at snack and preferably no candy at lunch.

My SIL lives in a different state and they are allowed to bring treats but only on a birthday, enough for one for everyone and allergy safe for the classroom.

There is no need for candy at school at all.

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Op they don't do anything about this stuff.

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So, OP, hopefully this thread cleared everything up for you. Adults coming from every angle on this are insane.

It is possible that nothing will happen because violence is tolerated in schools, that the police will get involved, or that the child will be curb stomped by an unhinged parent. Anything is possible, this is the wild world of dcum.