Daughter assaulted at school

[Anonymous]

Recently my 5th grader was assaulted at school. A boy asked her for some candy and she said no, she had already shared with him earlier that day. He got upset and purposefully threw a pencil at her eye.

The school responded by forcing the boy to do some hours of community service. Is this a sufficient response in your opinion? This child regularly has poor behavior.

[Anonymous]

Yes that is a normal punishment and your daughter should just avoid this person and not engage with them.

[Anonymous]

No, it’s not sufficient punishment.

[Anonymous]

Not sure how they force him to do community service but yes I can see this being enough.
Tell your kid to stay away from him 10yo boys don’t make good choices and are immature.

[Anonymous]

Assuming this is the first instance of violence that he has been punished for, I think it is appropriate. If it has happened before, then no -- it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how they force him to do community service but yes I can see this being enough.
Tell your kid to stay away from him 10yo boys don’t make good choices and are immature.

It’s some sort of school based community service like pick up trash on the playground.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised that you know about the punishment for the other child because it's none of your business. More importantly is creating a safety plan to keep your child safe.

[Anonymous]

How do you know they regularly have poor behavior?

[Anonymous]

Is this private as it doesn't sound like public. I'd remove my child and if they were injured I'd call and make a police report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know they regularly have poor behavior?

my daughter has mentioned his poor behavior to me multiple times.

[Anonymous]

Has the assailant apologized and shown genuine remorse, so that your daughter feels safe in the classroom. That's what the Restorative Justice process is supposed to be about.

Also, stop bringing candy and other flaunt worthy things to school. Just don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know they regularly have poor behavior?

my daughter has mentioned his poor behavior to me multiple times.

Not sure what that even means

Talk out of turn or throws desks through windows?

[Anonymous]

I'm always an advocate for self defense classes. It can't hurt to build better awareness, reflexes and assault response techniques.

[Anonymous]

A boy was wildly swinging something around and hit my daughter in the face and busted her lip and nothing happened to him. What exactly are you expecting here? You didn't mention an injury.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know they regularly have poor behavior?

my daughter has mentioned his poor behavior to me multiple times.

Not sure what that even means

Talk out of turn or throws desks through windows?

We talk about how school went daily. I was familiar with him before the pencil incident because she’s mentioned him getting in fights and being disruptive during instruction time multiple times.