Daughter assaulted at school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A boy was wildly swinging something around and hit my daughter in the face and busted her lip and nothing happened to him. What exactly are you expecting here? You didn't mention an injury.

That sounds like an accident. When my DD was in middle school her friend accidentally whipped his locker into her face and gave her a black eye. We got a call home. I met her at the train station and we talked about if he was angry, if she felt it was on purpose, how he reacted after it happened, etc. She assured me it was truly an accident, that the boy apologized on the spot and walked her to get ice, and felt very bad. They continued being friends for years. Accidents happen.

[Anonymous]

If it happens again, I’d take it higher. My son experienced assault and I was on the phone to the county superintendent when I felt the principal didn’t handle it well.

[Anonymous]

Are you looking for an eye for an eye like the Code of Hammurabi? Should they throw a pencil at his eye to make it even?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for an eye for an eye like the Code of Hammurabi? Should they throw a pencil at his eye to make it even?

No. She’s looking for accountability and proper consequences I order to curb the behavior and support a safe learning environment, which her child is entitled to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how they force him to do community service but yes I can see this being enough.
Tell your kid to stay away from him 10yo boys don’t make good choices and are immature.

Boys will be boys?

[Anonymous]

You don’t even write if she was injured. My son was hit in the head an inch from his eye on his temple from a kid throwing a rock. It bled quite a bit but all the kid had to do was write an apology letter.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want anyone to experience violence at their school, but based on the way you wrote “purposefully threw a pencil at her eye” I would assume you are a drama queen and I would try to avoid you evermore. He threw a pencil at her and I agree that the risk of hitting your eye makes that unacceptably dangerous. He almost certainly did not lance it at her eyeball. You weren’t there anyway!

This is just the feedback no one will give you to your face because it wouldn’t be worth enduring your inevitable freak out.

[Anonymous]

Making excuses for men's violent tendencies starts very early. This light punishment is no surprise, nor is the #boymom excuse making on this thread. Tell her sorry, the world is set up to protect them, not you, and it is best to learn how to stay out of their blast radiuses.

[Anonymous]

It does seem like a normal consequence. But you need to stop thinking that there's a single consequence that will put a stop to the behavior. That's not really how this works. Maturity and the development of impulse control takes time and if a consequence could cause it to occur swiftly, the world would be a very different place.

What you can do is ask for her to be seated away from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A boy was wildly swinging something around and hit my daughter in the face and busted her lip and nothing happened to him. What exactly are you expecting here? You didn't mention an injury.

That sounds like an accident. When my DD was in middle school her friend accidentally whipped his locker into her face and gave her a black eye. We got a call home. I met her at the train station and we talked about if he was angry, if she felt it was on purpose, how he reacted after it happened, etc. She assured me it was truly an accident, that the boy apologized on the spot and walked her to get ice, and felt very bad. They continued being friends for years. Accidents happen.

He wasn't wildly swinging it around by accident. It was a very deliberate act and then she walked up at the wrong time. That was an 'accident' waiting to happen but still, no great punishment and we didn't really expect one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want anyone to experience violence at their school, but based on the way you wrote “purposefully threw a pencil at her eye” I would assume you are a drama queen and I would try to avoid you evermore. He threw a pencil at her and I agree that the risk of hitting your eye makes that unacceptably dangerous. He almost certainly did not lance it at her eyeball. You weren’t there anyway!

This is just the feedback no one will give you to your face because it wouldn’t be worth enduring your inevitable freak out.

+1

Exactly this. The punishment seems appropriate without further detailed information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Making excuses for men's violent tendencies starts very early. This light punishment is no surprise, nor is the #boymom excuse making on this thread. Tell her sorry, the world is set up to protect them, not you, and it is best to learn how to stay out of their blast radiuses.

THIS. Placing male comfort above female safety starts young. It’s sad, but true.

[Anonymous]

Definitely contact the police. This deserves a significant period of incarceration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Making excuses for men's violent tendencies starts very early. This light punishment is no surprise, nor is the #boymom excuse making on this thread. Tell her sorry, the world is set up to protect them, not you, and it is best to learn how to stay out of their blast radiuses.

THIS. Placing male comfort above female safety starts young. It’s sad, but true.

It's his right to throw pencils towards other students! Not his fault if it accidentally ends up in her eye!

[Anonymous]

It was a pencil, not a rock. Unlike to do damage at all, unless he used it to stab the victim or he is some sort of ninja kid and threw it like a dagger or one of those star weapon things.