Protecting sister from man who is only dating her for money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he abusive, mean? You can't tell her she's too ugly for love and she heard the same joke you did.

I think it’s abusive to take advantage of someone for financial gain and dating someone for money is wrong. If she couldn’t work or became poor I have no doubt he’d dump her quickly.

What about dating someone for looks when they could dump them as soon as they gained weight? That’s ok by you?

What about dating someone because they’re funny and then dumping them when they go through a rough patch in life and feel more sad than they used to?

[Anonymous]

Agree with the PP who wondered if OP stands
To inherit one day.

[Anonymous]

$500k/year is absolutely gold-digging territory. In many areas $300k is. Anything that is enough to comfortably support a family on one income qualifies if the second spouse is simply looking to SAH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my husband while dating that I wanted to SAH when our kids were growing up. Thank goodness he was supportive and did not accuse me of gold digging and neither did his relatives. We’ve been married 20 years and they all tell me that the only reason he has a clean house and matching clothes and shows up to events on time is because of me!

There is a lid for every pot. If he is mean or uncaring that’s different. But, I am a teacher and know some great male teachers that I’m sure make wonderful (if not high earning) husbands and fathers.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her motives may be more complicated than you realize, and she is likely aware of their income disparity.

If things head toward marriage you can mention a prenup as a way to protect her future children (people tend to be more willing to take steps to protect their children than themselves).

Hahaha, imagine a high earning guy asking his teacher fiancée to sign a prenup in order to protect his future children. See how ridiculous that sounds?

It doesn’t sound ridiculous to me, plenty of high earning men have prenups. They don’t usually enter into them to protect their kids, but high earning women in my life tend to have in mind to protect their kids financial security in case of a divorce/remarriage situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he abusive, mean? You can't tell her she's too ugly for love and she heard the same joke you did.

I think it’s abusive to take advantage of someone for financial gain and dating someone for money is wrong. If she couldn’t work or became poor I have no doubt he’d dump her quickly.

How do you know she isn’t using her wealth to attract him? Maybe she likes knowing she will have power in the relationship. Or maybe they balance each other out. Lots of people make jokes about their partners. It is done on fun.

[Anonymous]

Men aren’t interested I. Her? Yeeesh. Maybe they are intimidated

[Anonymous]

It’s common for one partner to significantly outearn the other. If he treats her well and she’s happy, there is no problem. Not everything is about money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my husband while dating that I wanted to SAH when our kids were growing up. Thank goodness he was supportive and did not accuse me of gold digging and neither did his relatives. We’ve been married 20 years and they all tell me that the only reason he has a clean house and matching clothes and shows up to events on time is because of me!

There is a lid for every pot. If he is mean or uncaring that’s different. But, I am a teacher and know some great male teachers that I’m sure make wonderful (if not high earning) husbands and fathers.

I was a SAH as well. I never went back to work, but we maxed our 2 retirements and are very financially well off. Every situation is different. Most of my friends wanted to quit their jobs, but sadly weren't married to men who supported that. Many aren't good with money management which didn't afford them to stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he abusive, mean? You can't tell her she's too ugly for love and she heard the same joke you did.

I think it’s abusive to take advantage of someone for financial gain and dating someone for money is wrong. If she couldn’t work or became poor I have no doubt he’d dump her quickly.

We have an older male friend who runs into that all the time. I told him to pass if the women are not doing well financially. And don't date younger women because obviously he's run into that a lot.

OP do a background on him. The past will often predict the future behavior.