Insults or hurtful words you can’t forget

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a teenager when I heard my father laugh on the phone with a coworker and I mentioned to my mom that it sounded so phony and weird. Without missing a beat she said, "Daddy stopped laughing the day you were born."

Oh, and when I had to wear a baseball hat for my job at an ice cream shop, so I put my hair in a braid and pulled it through the hole on the hat. On my way to work my mother told me it looked "like a log of sh*t."

Not that you hold a grudge or anything. If this is the worse you got, not feeling too sorry for you.

Lol, thanks for taking the time to share your feelings. Of course it's not the worsT I got; it's just what came to mind first when I read the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a black teacher within the DMV. I hear racial slurs all the time directed towards myself, other teachers and other students. I can’t tell you how many times I got called a n*** teacher or a black monkey. It is absolutely disgusting and makes me sick. Even coming from children, it hurts. They will look you dead in the eye and say it.

I am so sorry, and so shocked. I grew up in a VERY white town, surrounded by some other white towns. In all of elementary, middle and high school, there was only one black teacher in all those schools. Nobody I grew up with would have EVER said that word, to or about her. MAYBE if a song had the n-word they would sing it when singing the song, but that's it. What is wrong with these kids? The kids I grew up with weren't particularly kind or well-behaved, but that was just a line that would never get crossed.

[Anonymous]

"So what if I'm more attracted to her than you? It's not like she would be interested in me anyway."

The "her" is an IG model 15 years younger than him that I asked him to unfollow (after he promised he would unfollow her).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After my ILs refused to help with a babysitting emergency related to my work my mother said "He acts like he's in his own world, he doesn't make enough money to take care of you, and his parents may as well be dead. Why did you even marry him."

She’s not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all need to go to therapy and do deep work on yourselves if you're still gutted from throw away comments from otherwise loving parents

Loving parents don’t make comments like these.

[Anonymous]

I think I’ve had a harder life than these posters. I won’t even post the hurtful words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"So what if I'm more attracted to her than you? It's not like she would be interested in me anyway."

The "her" is an IG model 15 years younger than him that I asked him to unfollow (after he promised he would unfollow her).

Wow, gross!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I’ve had a harder life than these posters. I won’t even post the hurtful words.

-Opens thread
-Reads thread
-Decides to post on thread about not posting on the thread

Great job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My H cheated on me while I was pregnant and for 6 months after. When I asked why, his reason was “she can talk about literature and The Hero’s Journey”.

I could have handled something real like he felt neglected, or wasn’t happy with our sex life. But the way he said it was a flat out “she is smarter and more special than you, and you are just a boring housewife with no interesting qualities”.

During reconciliation he told me he couldn’t feel romantic about me because I didn’t listen to the same music, read the same books, or watch the same movies.

(He fancied himself the deep tortured artist type, while I’m mostly into pop culture).

Also when asked what he liked about me, he couldn’t come up with a single thing.

Those three things stick out - just making it blatantly obvious that he’s at a level above me.

Funny thing is, after all of that I ended up making quite a bit of money writing and worked on some projects with a film studio. Meanwhile he’s been talking for years about all these big art projects he’s working on but he’s never completed a single one.

When I saw the Barbie movie last year it finally clicked - he’s one of those guys who just wants a woman to fawn over how much he knows about The Godfather.

You’re still married to this guy?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all need to go to therapy and do deep work on yourselves if you're still gutted from throw away comments from otherwise loving parents

Firstly, how do you know they are "otherwise loving parents"? You don't. Secondly, who said we are gutted? They're simply insults that stuck out. Nobody's saying they're curled in the fetal position rocking back and forth here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband said that his brother “married up”. I still feel like shit when I think about that.

As opposed to your husband? That’s mean. But I wish that were the meanest my DH had said to me.

After I basically started crying after he said that, he kept saying that wasn't what he meant. She did come from a wealthy family, and she did become a lawyer (breadwinner). He also didn't say "compared to you", but it definitely seems like he thinks his brother got the better end of the stick. I think the exact words were "Larlo was smart, he married up".

NP here. I think you're overthinking this and being too sensitive. The only person he's (maybe, possibly) insulting here is his brother. "Up" from the brother. Not you, not your husband -- the brother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s mine: DH telling me that he’s glad when I die and that neither he nor the kids will miss me. Upon saying that this is hurtful he said who will miss the witch. This was following a health scare. I just can’t unhear this.

Why. Are. You. Still. Married?

1000% disagree! No one has EVER said anything to me like the horrible things in this thread. Raise your standards—you deserve better, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a black teacher within the DMV. I hear racial slurs all the time directed towards myself, other teachers and other students. I can’t tell you how many times I got called a n*** teacher or a black monkey. It is absolutely disgusting and makes me sick. Even coming from children, it hurts. They will look you dead in the eye and say it.

I’m so sorry. They’re ignorant and hateful

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After I got my first real job, I wrote my parents a large check as a thank you for supporting me. My father scoffed and snidely commented that he wouldn't have sold his favorite gun if he'd known I was going to write them a check. I understand now that he's always had mental health issues, and that his issues aren't my fault. But for so long I wondered why he hated me.

It’s extremely strange to write your parents a check. They chose to have you, of course they had to support you.

I disagree. All behavior makes sense if you understand what leads to that behavior. It would seem to me that this woman wrote the check because she was never made to feel like her parents wanted to support her, or it was a burden to parent/support her. So paying back what felt like a debt is not "extremely strange." I can relate. Consider yourself lucky that it would feel strange for you to feel compelled to do that.

But you can never pay back all they’ve done for you so it’s a useless gesture.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After I got my first real job, I wrote my parents a large check as a thank you for supporting me. My father scoffed and snidely commented that he wouldn't have sold his favorite gun if he'd known I was going to write them a check. I understand now that he's always had mental health issues, and that his issues aren't my fault. But for so long I wondered why he hated me.

It’s extremely strange to write your parents a check. They chose to have you, of course they had to support you.

I disagree. All behavior makes sense if you understand what leads to that behavior. It would seem to me that this woman wrote the check because she was never made to feel like her parents wanted to support her, or it was a burden to parent/support her. So paying back what felt like a debt is not "extremely strange." I can relate. Consider yourself lucky that it would feel strange for you to feel compelled to do that.

But you can never pay back all they’ve done for you so it’s a useless gesture.

Huh? Loads of people support their parents in so many ways once they have the means. That's useless? Whatever. I'm the PP, and I wanted to thank my mom, who never made me feel like a burden. There was no money for my college because I had an older sister. They thought I would get scholarships...I didn't. So they took out a parent loan, and I thought I would pay them back for that a little at a time. I also had loans btw. Anyway, I went to grad school and made some money there but needed to be on their insurance. I needed a little help during that time when most people my age, in my tiny Southern community, were married and had kids in their early 20's. I felt like a free loader and so guilty. My father was so sick of me. He thought I'd be out of his hair after high school, but I wasn't. I ended up being quite the disappointment. Those words he said about selling the gun...that was the last straw. Those words gave me permission to not care anymore. I was done, and I still am.