Do you find it annoying when strangers keep calling you “sweetheart” or some other inane term of endearment?

[Anonymous]

I love it, but I’m from the south. Sugar is my favorite, particularly when it comes from a motherly older woman. I’d let this go. It’s not meant to be rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"

I asked them to stop but they wouldn't.

What would you prefer? I don't have the capacity to learn/remember all the parents'/caregivers' names; wouldn't you rather have me concentrating on the medical stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We must travel in very different classes, OP. I have not had this experience in the US ever.

You don't get around enough honey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"

I asked them to stop but they wouldn't.

That’s just how it is in pediatrics. They don’t know if your last name matches your child’s so they just say “hey Jayden, come on into room 2. Mom you can come on in too , or you can wait in the waiting area”

Ma‘m would be more appropriate than “mom.” Mom really aggravates me. Even worse “mami “

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a LMC thing. Just ignore it.

In England, the equivalent is “Luf (love)” or “Duk (Duck)” and it’s an LMC/regional (northern)thing there too.

No, in England in the 1970's in the NORTH only it was "Duck". No one still living uses that.

My Nan would beg to disagree, you mardy besom.

[Anonymous]

Should be “canceled,” worse when people younger than you say it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a LMC thing. Just ignore it.

In England, the equivalent is “Luf (love)” or “Duk (Duck)” and it’s an LMC/regional (northern)thing there too.

No, in England in the 1970's in the NORTH only it was "Duck". No one still living uses that.

not true. I lived in the North until a few years ago. I got called Love and Duck all the time a that thick Geordie accent. It is still very much in use.

[Anonymous]

I am from the Northeast. I generally find it amusing/charming in an anthropological way. I can't help preferring the direct (sometimes rude) manner that I grew up with--it can be blunt but I trust it--but the "sweetheart" and "hon"s don't bother me at all.

I don't trust "hokey hospitality" and understand the privileges of being an UMC white woman, so I can't say that I like it really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"

I asked them to stop but they wouldn't.

That’s just how it is in pediatrics. They don’t know if your last name matches your child’s so they just say “hey Jayden, come on into room 2. Mom you can come on in too , or you can wait in the waiting area”

Ma‘m would be more appropriate than “mom.” Mom really aggravates me. Even worse “mami “

Something professional. Like I am a peer. Which I am.

Ma'am is fine.

[Anonymous]

I don't get upset when people are nice to me.

Don't invent trouble. We have enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t show it, but I don’t like it when some man refers to me as “the young lady in the blue shirt.”

I’m 65. So patronizing.

The old ladies with a sense of humor are happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get upset when people are nice to me.

Don't invent trouble. We have enough.

This. Exactly. Chill out, OP. Be kind and look for it in others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"

I asked them to stop but they wouldn't.

That’s just how it is in pediatrics. They don’t know if your last name matches your child’s so they just say “hey Jayden, come on into room 2. Mom you can come on in too , or you can wait in the waiting area”

Ma‘m would be more appropriate than “mom.” Mom really aggravates me. Even worse “mami “

Something professional. Like I am a peer. Which I am.

Ma'am is fine.

To me, ma’am implies the person being addressed is a superior, not a peer or equal.

See how that lands differently with different people?

Should the AP at the ped really need to worry about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get upset when people are nice to me.

Don't invent trouble. We have enough.

Yep. Just nod and wave.