Do you find it annoying when strangers keep calling you “sweetheart” or some other inane term of endearment?
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Anonymous
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To be honest, it had never happened to me before yesterday and I found it so aggravating/annoying. Almost patronizing.
It was at a restaurant and the waitress kept calling me sweetheart at the end of every sentence or answer. “I got you sweetheart.” “Don’t worry sweetheart.” Etc. Ad nauseam. I had people call me some sort of endearment before, but usually only once and that was fine. Yesterday, the constant repetition was irksome and came across as patronizing. Maybe I was just tired?! lol |
Anonymous
| I ignore it |
Anonymous
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When I was younger and men would do it to patronize me, yes.
A waitress just getting through her day? No. Lighten up. |
Anonymous
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Nope. Lighten up Francis.
Now the first time I was called "ma'am" by a teen, yikes, I did mind that! |
Anonymous
| No not at all. This also depends on where you are in the county. Common some places. |
Anonymous
| No I don’t mind at all. |
Anonymous
| I enjoy it. I love being called honey, sweetheart, ma'am, miss... |
Anonymous
| Not when it comes from a woman and it is said in a nice way. |
Anonymous
| I'm capable of shaking off a lot of things other people would find annoying. I like to focus my energy on things that really matter. This doesn't. |
Anonymous
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It’s regional.
People from Baltimore often say “hon” Where I’m from in NC, it’s hon, sweetie, sweetheart. You are overthinking this and looking for issues. SMH. Bless your heart. |
Anonymous
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If it’s not patronizing, then I don’t mind it and some days I probably need it.
And as a former waitress, I definitely wouldn’t criticize someone who tacks it on to every sentence. At some point your brain goes on autopilot with the conversations of the work day. It’s no different than using the same greeting or sign off on every email if you work at an office job. |
Anonymous
| Doesn't bother me. I thinks it's a bit of nicety in the day. |
Anonymous
| If it’s condescending or in a business setting, yes. I will correct that. Otherwise I generally assume goodwill. |
Anonymous
Me too! It feels warm and fuzzy. |
Anonymous
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I don’t show it, but I don’t like it when some man refers to me as “the young lady in the blue shirt.”
I’m 65. So patronizing. |