Do you find it annoying when strangers keep calling you “sweetheart” or some other inane term of endearment?
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Anonymous
| No, it doesn't bother me because I realize that 99% of the time, it's a regional thing. |
Anonymous
| I have friends who call me ‘gorgeous’ or ‘beautiful’ and I want to tell them to STFU. I was prettier than average when I was younger, but never really liked the feminine thing, and always hated when people commented on my looks, and now it seems even more sad. Why do they think I need this? |
Anonymous
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When I was younger and it was from dudes trying to creep on me, yes.
In any other context, of course not. |
Anonymous
Right? It's like when I was a teenager out with my grandma (who fully looked like what Central Casting would order for a grandma, complete with a tissue up her cardigan sleeve) and someone said we were sisters. Who falls for that shit? Men?! |
Anonymous
| I tend to listen for the intent and not the words. |
Anonymous
At least someone is bothering to raise polite teens. I would respect that at least. |
Anonymous
| I don't like it. They don't know me so let's keep it business like, please. |
Anonymous
| As long as it's not said with a patronizing tone it's fine. I'm 35 and a nurse. I look and sound younger. I have patients call me sweetheart, honey, sweetie, darling (and some less nice names) and on the phone I have people call me sweetheart and honey. It's mostly women. If it's a male calling me one of those names, 90% it's someone who could be my grandpa and it doesn't really bother me. The other 10% it's usually used on a creepy or patronizing way. |
Anonymous
Amen. Or when the 20-something checker calls me “young lady.” No, dude, you didn’t make my day! |
Anonymous
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It’s a LMC thing. Just ignore it.
In England, the equivalent is “Luf (love)” or “Duk (Duck)” and it’s an LMC/regional (northern)thing there too. |
Anonymous
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In general no.
I had a plumber from Michael and son who was mad he did the work wrong and when I kept calling him on it he said “listen Honey”. I let him know it was not appropriate. My good friend works in an industry teaching customer service and it’s like nails on a chalk board for her… but we never say something in a wait staff situation. |
Anonymous
Agree, regional. In New Orleans it's "baby". Such as: hey baby, how's your Mama? Hey baby, whacha want?" I call my teen kids baby! Its what I grew up with |
Anonymous
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I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"
I asked them to stop but they wouldn't. |
Anonymous
No, in England in the 1970's in the NORTH only it was "Duck". No one still living uses that. |
Anonymous
Agree. |