Awful HS Counselor, anyone else?

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

Sure, including being Unprofessional and racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

I was one of the PP's with a kid who had a poor counseling experience.

However, two of my other kids had an AMAZING counselor! One just like you who worked tirelessly for a very large number of students. She was very helpful and made time for our kid, which I was honestly shocked by given the number of students assigned to her. She had a lot on her plate and did it with competence and grace. We were so appreciative and told her so.

The reason you're not hearing about counselors like you on this thread is that the OP specifically asked if anyone else had a similar experience. My response was specific to that request. I hope I'm joined by others who are immensely grateful for the good ones. Having been through both experiences, it takes a lot of stress off to know your child's counselor is supporting them in navigating a complex process. Thank you for what you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you’ve done quite enough already. Poor kid.

This.

that's not an "awful" counselor in the slightest, he actually had a meeting with your kid, which is more than most.

Did you miuss the part where OP said

"This was the same counselor who had griped earlier to DC blaming the end of affirmative action on "Chinese" people complaining about discrimination when there was none."

I don't know if the counselor actually said this but if they did and DC is chinese, they should probably lose their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you’ve done quite enough already. Poor kid.

This.

that's not an "awful" counselor in the slightest, he actually had a meeting with your kid, which is more than most.

No adult employed by a school should tell a student their parent is too pushy. They can think it, they can say it to the parent if they like, but it’s not ok to say that to the child.

No one in authority over where students end up for college should have views that blame “Chinese” for the end of affirmative action.

This guy is awful.

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Why can't they say this? Because they're only there to "serve you"?? Total entitled response from the OP and you. Unbelievable.

because it is inappropriate to criticize a kid's parent like that to the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor is a racist and needs to be fired.

Is that really racism?
I mean by today's standards, aren't you allowed to be racist against asians and jews and whites?
Not even a little bit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

A fundamental problem described above is the 300:1 student:counselor ratio. And that ratio is outside the counselor's control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

A fundamental problem described above is the 300:1 student:counselor ratio. And that ratio is outside the counselor's control.

The ratio makes counselors racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:things that didn’t happen for $500.

You believe a stressed teenager’s recall of a conversation is perfect? Please. You have no idea what this counselor actually said. Call them. I bet the conversation was totally different.

You seem to associate with kids who have poor recall.

It really isn't all of them.

Sorry for you, must be tough to parent ones like that

I took the comment to mean, there is Person A's interpretation of the conversation, Person B's interpretation and then there is the truth. There is a lot of context missing for anyone to provide informed advice. Where does the 'pushy' sentiment come from? Has the student had this counselor for 3 months? A year? 3 years? Why the discouragement for reach apps? What was said about the sups that lead to tears?

NP. Same thoughts here

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think it’s ridiculous that LOR are even required of counselors. It’s unfair to the counselors at these huge schools and also to the kids.
It shouldn’t matter.
And it definitely gives an advantage to private school kids.
Sigh
My kid’s counselor worked so hard and tried. But there was no way they could write a personal letter for my student.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to hire a private counselor. Public ones are stretched too thin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that some of you have had such negative experiences with your kids’ high school counselor. As a high school counselor with over 300 students, who consistently spends my weekends and evenings writing college recommendations and responding to emails (and yes I have my own family too), I find this thread extremely upsetting. No matter what a high school counselor does, it’s never enough.

A fundamental problem described above is the 300:1 student:counselor ratio. And that ratio is outside the counselor's control.

The ratio makes counselors racist?

No. You're cross threaded. It was posted on the why public school counselors are so busy and hard to contact thread.