birthday disappointment and I'm feeling sorry for myself.

[Anonymous]

🥳 Happy 50th to you OP‼️🤩
Welcome to the Fifty Club….It’s wonderful to be a member!

Your husband + kids should have planned something unique & special for this birthday - especially a milestone!
Even if you didn’t specify what you wanted, common sense dictates that they could have done something to show you how much they care.

Taking you out to dinner or cooking you a homemade dinner would have been great.
Then a birthday cake 🎂 and some heartfelt birthday gifts to top it all off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here. My DW is turning 50 in a year and I’m already stressing about what to do.

She is the most anti-party no-gift person, but this is 50!

You have every right to feel down.

At the very least maybe you can bake her a cake or cook her a nice dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I turned 50 this weekend. My husband asked a week ago if I wanted a party or a gathering and I said no as that is not my style. So he bought me a pie at the grocery store. We said down with the 2 of 3 teenagers who were home at the time and I had a piece of pie. We had two friends stop by and they shared the pie with us.
That was it. No cards, gifts, etc except my parents sent me a card. Many friends checked in by text and phone.
I think I messed up because I didn't specify to my husband that I would have liked a gift or for my teenagers to acknowledge my birthday.
No, I didn't want a party but I also didn't want it to just be ignored.
Sometimes it's exhausting to have to plan everything but I know I have little room to complain if I didn't specify what it was that I wanted. So I have no real grounds to be hurt.
I'm 50 years old. Whew. Today is a new day.

You weren't ignored. There was pie and family time. Why can't you appreciate that?

You're 50. What gifts do you really need?

Agree! There was something. It wasn't nothing. And if you wanted something more, well it's been said a few times here already --> don't say you don't care if you do.

Cherish the something that did occur! Cherish being 50. Cherish friends. Cherish the fact that your family is healthy and could be together. And eat some ice cream. Ice cream always helps.

Maybe find time this coming holiday weekend and ask for dinner? Or something? That is, if it is still bothering you by then.

If it's any solace, my DW completely ignored my 50th - but that wasn't entirely surprising. In fact, it was as predictable as the Swiss trains and so it didn't hurt. I suspect you could have predicted the outcome here as well. Which means, you need to actively intervene and take action yourself if you want something different.

Oh, and happy birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you suggest going out to dinner or something if you wanted more?

I find it so annoying when people say they don't want anything then get disappointed when people do as they ask.

You could have gone out last minute even when you discovered you felt this way. Lots of places have last minute openings due to cancellations. This is on you.

I don't get this either. You could have said, I don't want a party but want to do ----.

You are lucky to be 50 and still have two living parents, btw!