I think I am going to have a panic attack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who has regular panic attacks (not due to college admissions), and who has gone through the college app process with my oldest...

... it's not the end of the world if you do get a panic attack. You won't die, even if you feel you're dying. I know, it's a harsh truth, but when I have one at 2 in the morning, that's all I can tell myself to get through it. Also, cold packs helps. Or opening the freezer door and just standing there.

To go back to college apps. Email the counselor yourself. Or call, during school hours. They're swamped, but if they made a mistake, they deserve a call from the parent. Your child can also call the admissions office (not you this time - you want to keep a low profile in front of admissions).

Go through the app again, and make sure everything's correct. Believe the app and the college, not the high school counselor.

Everything is going to be OK. You are a caring, thoughtful, detail-oriented adult and your kid is doing everything she needs to do. It will be alright in the end.

As someone who has also had panic attacks (not due to admissions), I think this is super helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take some deep breaths and maybe a walk around the block. Then divide the things to do up into manageable tasks. One thing at a time. If something is out of your control, don't worry about it too much. All will be well.

None of this is helpful.

It’s literally some of the most helpful advice on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take some deep breaths and maybe a walk around the block. Then divide the things to do up into manageable tasks. One thing at a time. If something is out of your control, don't worry about it too much. All will be well.

None of this is helpful.

It’s literally some of the most helpful advice on this thread.

It’s like telling someone to calm down. That doesn’t work and is annoying. Again, it is not helpful.

[Anonymous]

I feel you. We went through this two years ago. DC didn’t submit anything until after Christmas. Major failure in the application process but fortunately they still got in a great school. With that said, the college application process is so complicated yet so important that high schools should provide more resources and support instead of stressing parents to the point of panic attacks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take some deep breaths and maybe a walk around the block. Then divide the things to do up into manageable tasks. One thing at a time. If something is out of your control, don't worry about it too much. All will be well.

None of this is helpful.

It’s literally some of the most helpful advice on this thread.

No, none of that gets the college application process done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pull yourself together.

this.

I am physically sitting at my desk normally, doing all my work and home everything and errands and Homecoming stuff and college stuff normally. I am an internal WRECK and barely sleeping. It is horrible. I just want to be done with this. I would LOVE to "pull myself together" and not worry.

I hear you. I bought a pack of cigarettes for the first time in like DECADES last week. It's a very stressful time for a lot of parents, not these parents obviously, but a lot of OTHER parents. It is finite and it will end.

In the meantime, did you know that cigarettes cost $14 now? And there is literally no where to smoke them.

Yikes! Smoking?! I was going to judge until I realized I’ve using wine to get thru this.

[Anonymous]

This is from a couple of years ago but my TJ kid applied ED to a top school. Spoke with and had commitments from teachers to supply recs (including having won some sort of "competition" from one teacher who limited their rec writing to winners only. 🙄) Ap deadline comes and passes. Kid gets an email saying application not complete NO REC letters received. Kids goes to counselor who is like "how would I know?" Then goes to teachers who are "oh yea." One quickly submitted. The other didn't so we the parents felt we needed to get involved. Spouse is a lawyer who carefully wrote what in any other world would be called a demand letter. Teacher finally sent it in. In the meantime kid was keeping AdCom apprised of what was going on.

And yes, kid did get in an attend. But no one needs to go through this crap. Sorry about your anxiety but you will get through it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is from a couple of years ago but my TJ kid applied ED to a top school. Spoke with and had commitments from teachers to supply recs (including having won some sort of "competition" from one teacher who limited their rec writing to winners only. 🙄) Ap deadline comes and passes. Kid gets an email saying application not complete NO REC letters received. Kids goes to counselor who is like "how would I know?" Then goes to teachers who are "oh yea." One quickly submitted. The other didn't so we the parents felt we needed to get involved. Spouse is a lawyer who carefully wrote what in any other world would be called a demand letter. Teacher finally sent it in. In the meantime kid was keeping AdCom apprised of what was going on.

And yes, kid did get in an attend. But no one needs to go through this crap. Sorry about your anxiety but you will get through it.

this is WILD.
I mean pick another teacher???

[Anonymous]

Ours hasn’t started their supplemental essays and I’m not worried at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take some deep breaths and maybe a walk around the block. Then divide the things to do up into manageable tasks. One thing at a time. If something is out of your control, don't worry about it too much. All will be well.

None of this is helpful.

It’s literally some of the most helpful advice on this thread.

It’s like telling someone to calm down. That doesn’t work and is annoying. Again, it is not helpful.

It was very helpful. You are the annoying one. People like you are part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pull yourself together.

Thank you. OP sounds like a total tool Karen ffs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pull yourself together.

Thank you. OP sounds like a total tool Karen ffs.

You don't know what a Karen is, clearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pull yourself together.

How is that "advice" helpful?

(Kind of like saying, "Snap out of it.")

[Anonymous]

I’m not there yet but isn’t it relatively easy to do the common app?

My kid did a summer program at a university and it was annoying to submit and wait for transcripts and counselors but it wasn’t difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pull yourself together.

this.

I am physically sitting at my desk normally, doing all my work and home everything and errands and Homecoming stuff and college stuff normally. I am an internal WRECK and barely sleeping. It is horrible. I just want to be done with this. I would LOVE to "pull myself together" and not worry.

I hear you. I bought a pack of cigarettes for the first time in like DECADES last week. It's a very stressful time for a lot of parents, not these parents obviously, but a lot of OTHER parents. It is finite and it will end.

In the meantime, did you know that cigarettes cost $14 now? And there is literally no where to smoke them.

lol $14??? That's crazy!

Better off with weed. Apparently, you can smoke it EVERYWHERE.